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What should I do now?
Last weekend my sister in law, in a drunken state, had a horrible screaming fight with me, also in a drunken state, about my parents, my childhood, how I was treated special compared to my brother (one of three) who was scarred by his upbringing. My dad was not always father of the year.
I had a MAJOR problem with her ravings, major...I am having a very hard time getting over this exchange. I don't know what to do now. We have always gotten along, I still like her, love my brother, love their kids but this has raked up some pretty resentful feelings. She ruined my night and weekend and I haven't been able to stop dwelling on it since. What should I do now to repair the relationship? |
Thank you! THis is great advice, especially the cooling off point. I thought about telling my brother, her husband, and letting him know how I felt about her comments that I felt were poisonous to any healthy relationship he or their kids might have with my parents.
I feel like maybe it would just be brushed off because of the booze thing and i'm afraid to throw this at his feet. It really would put him in the middle between me, his wife and our folks. I don't know.... Maybe my other SIL, she is level headed, knows my whole family...has had battles with my dad... I wish I could just forget it but it was so toxic, it was a relationship changing conversation.... Thanks for the advice |
Things from different perspectives.
I agree with Slampokes, take time and chill.
My brother, sister and I have different ideas of what our childhood was like. Our Father was not a saint but my siblings hero worship him. I remember a different story, more absences and passive agressive silences. I'm the oldest kid, is your brother the oldest too? |
take a chill pill
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She's a sister in law? How the fuck does she know about your bro's upbringing? This actually sounds like your brother's a little whiny pussy ass bitch who keeps lamenting about his past to his wife, so one drunken night she finally couldn't handle the secrets and broke down.
Seems like brother's the root of this one. |
Write it out!
Write her a letter that you know you'll never send. Tell her off completely. Don't hold back. Then throw it out. Wait a couple days and try to write a letter that you WOULD SEND her. Don't send it Wait a couple of days a write a new one. This one will be more calm. Try to keep your language about how YOU felt and not about what SHE did or does. For example: I felt like I was losing a friend Instead of: you were so mean People don't respond well to accusations. Wait a couple days after writing the last letter and see if you like it then It's so devastating to fight with family. It can be life altering. Take a breath. Keep perspective. |
Oh and distroy all letters you don't send. It does you no good to hold on to it and someone will find it and take it the wrong way
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Murder suicide.
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