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Old 05-30-2006, 09:41 AM   #6 (permalink)
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Unless you're rich, a DJ will be just fine. However, don't make your friends do it. The reception is an overflow of friends and family. Don't make them uncomfortable, as it will be remembered for years to come. People always have a story or two about great weddings and bad weddings.

Ours was a bit of both. The reception hall double-booked, but after persuasion by a pregnant bride (Engaged for three years, and she gets pregnant the month before the wedding, typical.), they not only refund the money, but pay for another hall. The tuxedo didn't fit, and the haircut was too short for me, and when my sister tried to fix it, it ended up looking like an Alfalpha cut. My mother gets a speeding ticket on her way to pick me up. Her mother still doesn't know about it. Her brother gets so smashed, he shatters his drink in his hand. My wife got pregnant the month before the wedding, so her hormones are messed up beyond crazy.

However, nobody outside of our immediate family (and her bridesmaids) was involved in any of this, so all they saw was a nice, quaint wedding. My wife has since proudly told this story to everybody who asks about her wedding.

My wife's best friend (who was supposed to be the maid of honor, instead became a second matron of honor), got married on a whim, and ended up just using the church basement and a boom box. It was nice enough for them.

Basically, don't ask them. The DJ can be one of the cheapest parts of the wedding, so try to fit it in. If your friend offers their services without the slightest of hinting from you, then you might be able to work something out. For instance they know you haven't much money, and they already have equipment, or they're not part of the Wedding Party.

If this is the case, try not to be demanding of them. Get with them before-hand and try to set up a program of songs, so they can set it and go schmooze like a guest. If you do this, then they won't have to take requests, which is most of the DJ's job. You can usually predict the course of songs anyway, especially for a smaller wedding.

Moral Number 4: The answer, my friend, is blowing in the wind. Except in New Jersey, where what's blowing in the wind smells funny.
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