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Originally Posted by Sparrow
i actually had a lovely divorce. his marrying my soul twin was, because i know him, something i could've expected and made the two of us quite square. we weren't out for blood and left each other as set up for future success as we could do for the other. we separated the physical assets by need; i feel as though we were both generous and mindful. the two weeks following his filing were spent in several deep and mostly open conversations about out situation barefoot on our front porch my feet propped up in his lap. cards were laid bare and honest questions were answered honestly; mostly. turns out we were just two different people with vastly different needs that weren't and couldn't be met by the other. all other things sprung from that one.
divorce is something else you do together. it can be a drawn out battle royale to be raked over or it can be the springboard to a next thing. the shit that happens to us, happens. reacting is a choice. we get to do that in any goddamn fashion we please.
the rough time i had, however, was between me and a red headed woman. that's another story.
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Thanks for sharing, Sparrow. I'm glad that you were able to end things like that. I really hope that the same can happen for us. I'm friends with several of my exes, but I've never ended a marriage before, let alone had to deal with splitting so many assets. It's a bit scary. I still love her and want her to be happy. I'm just sad that I'm not the one for her. I'm going to try my best to make this go smoothly. I hope she does the same.