[astrokahn]

So to follow up here:

I ended up writing a letter to my dad bc like I said, he does actually care about bettering himself as a person, which is a rare thing to find.

I posed the question to Reddit "Why didn't you come forward after sexual assault/rape/etc" and got about 20 replies in an hour or so. I then printed the replies plus a few of the ones from here and put them in a letter to my dad with a long explanation from me about all of the social garbage surrounding sexual bla bla bla.

Last night I got a voicemail from my dad. It was so moving, in it he says he got my letter and he now understands why he was wrong and he apologized over and over and over for any of the dumb things he has ever said about the topic. He said he even visited with his close friend (an 80 year old woman, he is 68) to discuss the topic and counsel with her over it. And she explained to him all kinds of stuff women have been dealing with since forever.

He sounded ashamed and the apology was definitely the only one I've heard yet that sounded real and that was just for having the wrong opinion on something.

God I wish I could put the voicemail on here, so you could all hear this old Brit apologize so beautifully. Anyway, a nice thing happened. That is all. It made a difference to help someone change a perspective he's had for 68 years.