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Keith Malley and his dad. What a team. An autobiography, stand-up, a podcast - where does it end with Keith’s obsession with Father Malley? Well certainly not here, where his youngest brother Ken joins him to reminisce.
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Great show, great to hear Ken's perspective and the whole Best In Show thing was like Keith's story without the jingling libido.
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That was the fastest I've ever clicked play. Great show!
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Holy shit
OMG this is straight up the best podcast ever. I was laughing like a maniac the whole time.
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yes, please, more of this.
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Wow.. I feel like a fly on the wall. I feel like how I do when my journeyman coworkers are talking war stories on the job. Keith and Ken elicited those feelings and man.. I can't get enough. I love how they seamlessly jump into dad impressions and talk to each other as if they were their dad. Please. More of this. Never stop. Get the other siblings on the show as well, maybe? Please?
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Loved listening to you talk to your sibling about your experiences! I feel like our experiences are aligning a little. I have a sister 8 years younger than me that I couldn't bond with well because our Narcissistic mother made her the golden child, so she was raised with a lot more opportunity and gifts. The generosity tricked her into thinking our Mother's emotional abuse wasn't that bad because she had nice things in life.
But as time went on and my sister did not agree with my mother's racist, conservative, and religious thoughts....things started changing. My mother started putting her down and convincing my sister she was a problem child as a way to maintain control. Then when I started to go no contact with my mother, that further fucked with my mother's brain... so she focused more of her negative energy on my sister. Last year has been amazing for me because our mother finally started going too far with my sister and I was able to validate and support my sister when she told me. This resulted in my sister realizing I didn't cut our Mom out of our lives because I'm a cold, heartless person; and that I also don't resent my sister because she was given more than me. I understand that my sister's gifts were still a form of controlling abuse and she as a different type of pain because of it. Last Christmas I was able to not see my mother for the first time at all(in part thanks to listening to Keith's Dad stories for 11 yrs and my own emotional growth). I think this monumental defiance contributed to my mother going into a narcissistic rage with my sister. Basically, my sister spent Christmas Eve, Christmas Day, and the day after with her. My mother was love bombing her, acting all sweet and caring. But then as they were driving to the mall, our mother made this comment: "You know, I would prefer if you never have kids...but I've always said it's not up to me. It's your life and your choice." This is a lie. She's had us all trained from as early as elementary school age to say we are not supposed to have kids until our mother is dead and in the ground. She got a kick out of how people reacted to hearing us say that. So my sister corrects her and tells her basically that. My mother snaps and starts screaming and ranting at my sister about how terrible a person she is. Then they get to the mall and my sister has to pretend like that never happened because all her stuff is at our mother's and she has no car because she's visiting from New York. My mother punishes her the whole day and by being cold and non responsive. They finally make it home to get my sister's stuff and our mom tells my sister she'll drop her off at her friend's house, but she needs to let the dog out real quick to use the bathroom. After waiting 45 minutes in the car, my sister goes into the house to see our mom watching tv. My sister was 26 and this was the first time she had been made to feel so powerless and disrespected as an adult. So she tells our Mom she's calling a Lyft and this results in another rage. Our mom tells my sister she doesn't like her, that my sister sucks the joy out of people, and that my sister is pretending to be someone she isn't by dating a well off guy. My sister laughs in her face and goes to leave and my mother actually tried to physically block her, but wasn't successful. So she slammed and locked the door behind her. Then three months later she called my sister and said "So, why haven't you been talking to me?" MY SISTER'S MIND WAS BLOWN and she said nothing in disbelief. I think our mother's brain freaked out and decided to change the subject to protect itself from the reality it glimpsed, so she started talking about whatever without a response from my sister. She talked for 20 minutes with my sister barely saying a word and then hung up. I pointed out to my sister that our whole lives, we had to accept her moods because we were powerless, so it makes sense to her when our mom is over something, then she thinks we should be too. My sister plans to confront her about this behavior being unacceptable and setting boundaries if they will continue to have a relationship, but wants to do it like a respectful adult in person. So that, and the fact that it feels terrible to think about, is why it hasn't happened yet. Our mother is trying to bait her and me into a regular relationship again and has tried to use Covid 19 to do so. My sister fell for it and told me to not beat her up for responding to the texts. I told her I understand how hard it is, but don't feel guilty. If our mother cared at all about us, she would have brought up and apologized for what she did after Christmas. She also wouldn't have ignored me when I told her my Dad had cancer. All she cares about is us falling into line like we used to always do without her being responsible for her actions and she sees Covid as something we would feel bad for ignoring. Which my sister did, but I wasn't. I am working hard to help my sister not feel bad about her emotional struggle and to help her more quickly shake off the conditioning that took me a few years. I LOVE hearing other people's stories and sharing mine because it validates what I went through and has helped me remove myself being as affected by the abusive behavior. Keep them coming Keith. Try and get all your siblings to share! |
So this is everything I hoped it would be and more. I hope Ken is able to get some peace from doing this.
I’ve always believed Keith when he told these stories. It always hits harder when you hear someone else saying the same thing. It made me a little sad hearing about how they couldn’t trust/enjoy ANYTHING with their dad. Even as simple as throwing a ball was a fucking put down mind game. Double fuck off father Malley. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk |
You exchanging stories with Ken made me remember you talking about the digging holes punishment. My dad’s favorite punishment was cleaning the trash cans. The difference was I could always point to a reason for the punishment, I stayed out too late, messed up the car, or whatever and if I remind him of this now, he immediately remembers and adds accurate details to the story. Now, that experience has become a funny family history story because there was no humiliation in it and was probably a way to get me out of his face so he could cool off.
As far as a diagnosis, I am a Licensed Professional Counselor, my guess from what I heard is narcissistic personality disorder. |
I can't even BEGIN to tell you how good this podcast is.
I was recently promoted to the manager of the podcast department at my local Sears and i can tell you that this podcast is a HUGE HIT! |
Ken is HOT! Hey boo!
Great show, please more. |
I have so many emotions about this
I can't even put them into words right now Hopefully Ken can come to the chat again but either way is there a way we can record the show live so we can ask questions live? |
We just started, so we’ll settle in first, but feel free to send any questions here or through info@.
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Ken's energy is so infectious, and that's the only type of infectious I want in my life right now.
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Excellent!
I totally loved this, and am really looking forward to more!! I was cracking up!
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Team Horny4Malleys! |
Fan-fucking-tatsic. I am so here for this!
Would love a kind of audio commentary on the Dad seasons, direct responses from Ken on the actual emails. |
I couldn't click play fast enough! More of this please! I could listen to you talk about Father Lies A Lot all day.
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Not another show?
I don't want to sound like I'm complaining, I'm not I love all da' shows.
But my god Malley how do you have time for yet another show?! is it ?! or !? or just ?... I'll never know... |
It’s ?! because while it is a question the final product is a yell.
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Had to listen again to get my questions straight
Seems like Ken is still on the fence on whether FM is, like, an actual psychopath, but I'm wondering at what age or event Ken stopped respecting him? I guess into adulthood all of you kids still acted respectfully toward him, but when did he realize FM was a sack of shit who wasn't looking out for anyone but himself.
Keith you ever talk with the older siblings - OR YOUR MOM - about FM spying on you in school? Was his insurance office or vacuum department near the school? Do we think the bodies are near the school? Not that I thought Keith was exaggerating stuff about his dad but it really just feels like hearing a fairy tale when two of you are saying the same thing or when Ken tells a story we heard a few hundred episodes ago. Can't wait for more |
somewhat related
I just watched a Swedish movie called "Evil," about a teen being abused by his stepdad and being shipped off to a boarding school where the abuse continues.
The school is run by former Nazis and one of the punishments the kids are put through are being forced to dig holes that are 3 feet wide by 3 feet long and 3 feet deep. The main difference is, the former Nazis actually give them measuring tools to make sure it's right. |
Fantastic show!
My brother and I always have a debrief session after either of us spends quality time with the parents. It's very cathartic. Thanks for sharing yours with us. |
I wish I had siblings...
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Sounds like a fun romp of a movie, I'm in! |
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My point is that it's not always the parents that are the fucked up ones. |
ya know, in the movie Holes the kids have to dig 6 foot holes as punishment. in reality the woman who owned the land was looking for secret buried treasure. have we considered that father Malley is looking for something? perhaps when you break the code in the Daniel 9 prophecy you uncover a map that leads to your back yard.
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here's the full movie: https://www.dailymotion.com/VITOMIN1 |
Ken is fantastic and I was bummed that the nearly 2 hour show went by so fast.
My only complaint is I'm getting a sore finger from scrolling the copious amounts of content you guys keep giving us. Thank you so much. |
I really think he stole the card money from you and your brother because money is tight. That it was abused and returned by you is the story he told your mom, and he wishes it was true, so he almost believes it. The thing that doesn't add up, and he doesn't want it to, is where's the money? Your mom is too ill to ask.
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Did anyone else stop and wonder what FM did to reach bankruptcy? The Malley's clearly weren't living large, and this would be before he had paid to publish his books.
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