Do you kiss goodbye to relatives and friends?

[marina]

Originally Posted by lattaland

Wow,There's a lotta hang-ups on this thread.
I don't see what the big deal about hugging is, I have no problem with it. I usually don't instigate hugs or kisses, but I don't mind them at all.
If you can't get down with a hug, you must be frigid in the sack too!

Ouch. Doesn't apply to me though, in either sense I guess. I just don't understand the extended hug. Do you know what I'm talking about, the people who will continue to hug for an uncomfortable period of time when you don't know each other like that? And then they act like you're the weird one because you don't enjoy a 10 second hug with mere acquaintances? And they say things like "we'll make a hugger out of you yet"

[motownguy]

Originally Posted by lattaland

Wow,There's a lotta hang-ups on this thread.
I don't see what the big deal about hugging is, I have no problem with it. I usually don't instigate hugs or kisses, but I don't mind them at all.
If you can't get down with a hug, you must be frigid in the sack too!

It is funny, isn't it? I usually wind up doing the handshake-hug with guys and the regular hug with a cheek brush for ladies. It just depends on how close everyone is and, sometimes, how soon we know we're going to see each other again. It surprises me how many rules people seem to have for their comfort zones. Go with the flow, you can always move in a little closer or not.

Of course, I'd exclude those creepy relatives (or "friend of the family")everyone seems to have. There's always that one person that you wind up saying goodbye to with a chair or something in between you so that they don't dry hump you out the door.

[notedhero]

Originally Posted by marina

Ouch. Doesn't apply to me though, in either sense I guess. I just don't understand the extended hug. Do you know what I'm talking about, the people who will continue to hug for an uncomfortable period of time when you don't know each other like that? And then they act like you're the weird one because you don't enjoy a 10 second hug with mere acquaintances? And they say things like "we'll make a hugger out of you yet"

I'm not so much an extended hugger either....I like the nice, quick, squeezy hugs. I kind of like to crush people a little bit...and pick them up if they're shorter than me, and at 6', there are few people I know shorter than me.

Originally Posted by motownguy

It is funny, isn't it? I usually wind up doing the handshake-hug with guys and the regular hug with a cheek brush for ladies. It just depends on how close everyone is and, sometimes, how soon we know we're going to see each other again. It surprises me how many rules people seem to have for their comfort zones. Go with the flow, you can always move in a little closer or not.

See, now the guy hug I totally understand, but I never even think about whether or not my cheek brushes up against someone else...it either happens or it doesnt for me...I'm not one to pay too much attention to that.

[iheartnihilism]

Originally Posted by McNally

I'm sure I wanted to hug. You've got some cans on you, girly.

I love how that's all anyone remembers of me. First thing Bebe said to me was smething along the line of "look at those!"

Originally Posted by lattaland

Way to make him feel like a jerk!

I totally didn't mean to. It ust kind of took me by surprise to be hugged by strangers.

Originally Posted by Rhian

I always thought my personal space thing was an only child thing.

Originally Posted by marina

I don't know. I'm an only child, but I always attributed it to the fact that my family is really cold and distant, and also that I got hit on top of it, so that touching was never a really positive occurance when I was a kid.

I m not an only child, but i was hit pretty badly growing up..

Originally Posted by lattaland

Wow,There's a lotta hang-ups on this thread.
I don't see what the big deal about hugging is, I have no problem with it. I usually don't instigate hugs or kisses, but I don't mind them at all.
If you can't get down with a hug, you must be frigid in the sack too!

I don't think i've got huge hang ups about touching, i ust dont see the point in hugging people you see, like, every other day. "Let me wrap my arms around you cause I haven't seen you in a whole 48 hours!" it just seems silly. And I don't like my family very much.
I have no problems at all being snuggly with my bf. Every sunday my friend complains about how snuggly we are during his open mic set actually. We're those "get a room!" kind of people.

[shantastic]

Originally Posted by motownguy

It is funny, isn't it? I usually wind up doing the handshake-hug with guys and the regular hug with a cheek brush for ladies. It just depends on how close everyone is and, sometimes, how soon we know we're going to see each other again. It surprises me how many rules people seem to have for their comfort zones. Go with the flow, you can always move in a little closer or not.

we should so hug sometime.

[motownguy]

Originally Posted by shantastic

we should so hug sometime.

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[punk'n]

Originally Posted by lebowski

cuddlewhore

This is me. For sure. I loves the snuggles.

[marina]

Originally Posted by iheartnihilism

I m not an only child, but i was hit pretty badly growing up...

I have no problems at all being snuggly with my bf. Every sunday my friend complains about how snuggly we are during his open mic set actually. We're those "get a room!" kind of people.

Dr. Boyfriend and I were actually talking about this because I was writing in this thread. He claims that I haven't become huggy at all, and brought up the fact that he has to ask me for a hug, and I will oblige because I like him but I really don't understand the point of standing in the kitchen hugging for no fucking reason at all when we see each other every single day. This also applies with snuggling, and to a lesser extend with long, drawn out foreplay. I just don't understand the need. To me snuggling is putting my legs over his while we're watching TV or putting my hand on his leg while we're driving.

[notedhero]

I think hugging, snuggling, etc. is the perfectly innocent way to intimately waste time...or bother a loved one playfully....chasing someone for a hug is always entertaining.

[shantastic]

Originally Posted by punk'n

This is me. For sure. I loves the snuggles.

me next!