Ever fuck something up so bad?

[AlanRay]

Anyone ever fuck up a relationship so bad that you do something crazy like drive a long distance to see a person who doesn't want to see you. Without any plan whatsoever?

[jorjo]

Originally Posted by AlanRay

Anyone ever fuck up a relationship so bad that you do something crazy like drive a long distance to see a person who doesn't want to see you. Without any plan whatsoever?

You mean like in the movie Road Trip?


No


What did you do?

[AlanRay]

Well there's this girl that I'm in love with, she doesn't love me back so we're just friends. She's told me things that she never told anyone else. And we did some stuff together, not of a sexual nature, that she's not comfortable with. My other friend asked me about how things were going and without thinking I told them the stuff that was going on. Girl A found out that I told Girl B about what happened, because I wasn't hiding it. I didn't realize until after I said it how wrong it was for me to say anything. So now I don't know what to do and I just drove 300 miles to see Girl A without thinking, got a speeding ticket in the process, and realized that I can't just go and see her because that will freak her out even more. I know it seems trivial to all of yous, but this is my first relationship of any kind in nearly 7 years, so it's big for me.

[arcatacat]

Originally Posted by AlanRay

Anyone ever fuck up a relationship so bad that you do something crazy like drive a long distance to see a person who doesn't want to see you. Without any plan whatsoever?

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[lebowski]

If Girl A truly understood you, she wouldn't be freaking out about anything you said.

[jorjo]

Well, I don't know what you did, or what sort of person Girl A is on a scale of "normal" (like that exists) to "psycho", but now that you've done the drive you may as well see her. Just offer a sincere apology for telling Girl B, explain that you didn't think it was wrong to say anything at the time, but that you have since realised it should probably remained private, and take it from there.

Good luck.

[gumby013]

Drop them both and go join the French Foreign Legion...

[arcatacat]

Sorry alan... Wasn't trying to be a dick, but that was funny.

Yeah, go see her. Tell her you are very sorry, bring her flowers and say that you wanted to personally deliver them so you could say sorry. She'll like that.

But then you need to leave. Don't expect her to want you to stay.

Good luck.

[AlanRay]

Originally Posted by arcatacat

Sorry alan... Wasn't trying to be a dick, but that was funny.

Yeah, go see her. Tell her you are very sorry, bring her flowers and say that you wanted to personally deliver them so you could say sorry. She'll like that.

But then you need to leave. Don't expect her to want you to stay.

Good luck.

No worries man, I understand how stupid this all is to everyone else. Thanks for the ideas, I'll think on it.

[jeffdrafttech]

If a friend-girl doesn't show romantic interest in you there are three possible reasons (no matter what women tell you)

1. She is with someone else.
Solution: Wait. Date other people so you don't appear to be waiting.

2. She doesn't find you sexy.
Solution: Work out. Body for life really works, or you could hire a personal trainer.

3. She subconsciously thinks you're a loser, even though she's your friend and wouldn't say or even admit it.
Solution: Work hard at your profession and/or education til you make enough money to impress her.

Women, if you disagree answer this: If one of your platonic guy friends built a hot bod and made a good living and you were single, would you not be willing to take it to the next level if he showed an interest?

This information was gleaned from listening to too much Adam Corolla, but I still think it's good advice.