Ever fuck something up so bad?

[Claire]

Originally Posted by Grapist

You may have had no interest in him initially but that may be because you didn't really know him or had a falsee impression of him, once you got to knw him you realized there was something there. These two know each other to the point of sharing some pretty intimate things with one another. It's true maybe after a few years tastes may change, people may grow etc but this is most likely the exception from what I have known, and not the rule.

Congrats on your 22 years though, that is quite an accomplishment.

Thanks, he is great in bed so that helps, hey! thats it! Alan Ray, show her how good you are in the sack and you are in!!!

[marina]

I've never fucked things up so bad i felt the need to drive three hundred miles to try and rectify it. I don't know that i would ever drive three hundred miles for that reason even if i did do something wrong. I figure that either the relationship will go on or it wont. I've had enough relationships end in my life to know that i'm not going to die if another one ends, in fact i'm usually better off in the long run. If you really fucked up, then all you can do is hope she forgives you. Could be she's over reacting and being a drama queen, which is usually what happens with women who tend to have 'friends' who are not really friends but people who'll try and settle for friendship while she strings them along and gets off on the sexual hold she's managed to create without even fucking them. Ask yourself this: would she do the same for you? If she wouldn't one of you is in the wrong. Maybe it's you, maybe it's her i don't know. I already said i'd never drive three hundred miles for relationship drama if i was in my right mind. I'm curious about how you got closer than platonic friends ever do without getting sexual. Maybe it's a girl thing but i've got a few platonic friends that the only way we could be closer is if we were lovers, and even then it might not be because sex can cloud a persons perception of their partner. Anyway, i don't know what it is a girl would do something with a guy, not tell him not to talk about it and then get pissed off when he did talk about it that isn't crazy boos. Sounds to me like you like drama and he you weren't pining over this girl it would probable be another one same as this one.

[AlanRay]

Originally Posted by lebowski

I can understand where you are coming from, but let me ask you this. How special are you to her? Has she told you what you mean to her? What exactly did she say. Because if you both don't feel the same way about each other, then it just is not fair to you at all. You would just be punishing yourself. Of all the guys she has known, do you think that she has gotten closest to you?

She has told me how she feels about me, she told me that she loves me. Now I know pretty well that she means as a close friend but nothing more. She has issues with lying, like she can't do it or she freaks out. Sort of like Chemda. Anyway, I can't imagine she could possibly be stringing me along.

Thank you legion for your guru advice, unfortunately I'm not as far along as you in life so I can't really take it right now. If in fact in a few years I find out that it wasn't worth it you will be the first person that I tell.

Marina, I don't really like drama actually, and I wouldn't be pining over another girl. This is the first girl I've had feelings for in over 6 years. I never found anyone worth my time in those years, and this girl is definitely worth my time.

[AlanRay]

Relaxing is not an option right now. My heart is racing a million miles an hour, it feels like it's going to explode. As for going home, I can't do that yet. Besides I don't think driving another 300 miles on no sleep is a good idea. I'm staying at my grandparents house, so it's not like I'm camped out on her front lawn or anything. I haven't even talked to her because I think it would be wrong to rush anything. As for drinking, it doesn't go well with my problems. I tried it out a few times and I don't like the way it makes me feel.

[Legion]

Well, if you refuse to take my previous advice, at least take this bit. Once you do move on, dont ever tell any other girl this story. It is not endearing, it does not show how caring you are, it is an indicator of neediness and obsession and girls dont dig it.

[ElleJ]

Originally Posted by AlanRay

I've never met anyone better than this girl. I would rather be her friend and never have a chance with her than not be able to talk to her anymore. She is one of the best people I know all around, just as a person she is good.

That is the cutest thing I've ever heard.

[AlanRay]

I don't plan on telling this story at any point in time. I know that it's not a good or rational thing to say to someone.

[Legion]

Originally Posted by AlanRay

I don't plan on telling this story at any point in time. I know that it's not a good or rational thing to say to someone.

Okay, now that you realize its not good or rational to say. Connect the dots and realize its not good or rational to do. It may seem like Im being a dick, but Im really helping you.

[AlanRay]

Sorry, despite the fact that I know it's not rational I can't just let it go. I know you're trying to help me, and I know I asked for help. I think all I can do is just wait for her to call me. I don't want to crowd her or anything. At least I'm somewhere that I feel comfortable. I lived in this town my whole life up until a year ago, that's part of why it was my instinct to drive here, because this is home to me.

[jeffdrafttech]

In the immortal words of the best comedy concert ever (not an exact quote)

Women don't have platonic friends, they just have guys they haven't fucked yet. Chris Rock

Itunes link to buy it for $0.99, it's track 15
I don't agree with this totally, but it might give you encouragement for a buck .

Let time heal your heart and hers. Slowly rebuild the friendship. Take my earlier advice if you really want to build your chances, self improvement will never end badly. IMHO it's OK to not give up if your feelings are that strong. You may just end up keeping her as a friend, and that might be a happy ending after all.