Ever fuck something up so bad?

[Bebe]

Originally Posted by jeffdrafttech

In the immortal words of the best comedy concert ever (not an exact quote)

Itunes link to buy it for $0.99, it's track 15
I don't agree with this totally, but it might give you encouragement for a buck .

Let time heal your heart and hers. Slowly rebuild the friendship. Take my earlier advice if you really want to build your chances, self improvement will never end badly. IMHO it's OK to not give up if your feelings are that strong. You may just end up keeping her as a friend, and that might be a happy ending after all.

OMG, so this is why all my male friends think it's okay to give it a try?

It fucking annoys me.

[strangeone]

Originally Posted by Bebe

OMG, so this is why all my male friends think it's okay to give it a try?

It fucking annoys me.

Sorry.

[shebop]

I just read through the whole thread - and - a couple thoughts.....

I have become attracted to someone after a lengthy "just friendship" relationship on more than one occasion - at that point I think it is just as likely that the person who was attracted from the get-go will lose interest because it's not all that they expected it to be. At least they can sleep nights knowing they finally got what they thought they wanted - and yes - I do think that counts for something.

Holding back from what you truly want to do will hurt you more than anyone.
By that I mean that if you give someone space - or put a time limit on how often you see them or speak to them it is most often you that is aware of this and not the other person. They go on about their life while you are going crazy not doing things that you want to do. I am a huge believer in getting stuff out on the table - that way it doesn't fester inside of you.

Just an opinion from someone who has been on both sides....

[EastTexas]

Fuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuccccccccccccckkkkkkkkk you.
and welcome to the forums

[lebowski]

Originally Posted by AlanRay

Relaxing is not an option right now. My heart is racing a million miles an hour, it feels like it's going to explode. As for going home, I can't do that yet. Besides I don't think driving another 300 miles on no sleep is a good idea. I'm staying at my grandparents house, so it's not like I'm camped out on her front lawn or anything. I haven't even talked to her because I think it would be wrong to rush anything. As for drinking, it doesn't go well with my problems. I tried it out a few times and I don't like the way it makes me feel.

you need to puff a little, it will calm you down.

[Grapist]

Originally Posted by AlanRay

Sorry, despite the fact that I know it's not rational I can't just let it go. I know you're trying to help me, and I know I asked for help. I think all I can do is just wait for her to call me. I don't want to crowd her or anything. At least I'm somewhere that I feel comfortable. I lived in this town my whole life up until a year ago, that's part of why it was my instinct to drive here, because this is home to me.

Alright God damnit I've heard enough. Here's what you need to hear right now... Stop being a fucking pussy and start being a man, it is not endeering to women to be so fucking "womanlike" sheesh. Go home, drink, smoke, or whatever you do her out of your mind and forget about it. My god you come across like such a overly sensitive douche when you make posts like this. Women DO NOT LIKE THAT!!!

PS Legion is my new hero.

[iheartnihilism]

Originally Posted by AlanRay

We got closer than platonic friends do, nothing sexual happened.

This sentence makes no sense to me whatsoever. To me, that's the difference between platonic and love/the next level/whatever you want to call it.

I only have one friend who's a female and I'm close as hell with all of my platonic friends. You can't get too close to your friends? I thought that's what the point of friends are? I look at my friends as my brothers, you can't get closer than that (without it being sexual)
Im not trying to be a dick, I just don't understand what you mean.

Originally Posted by Grapist

Stop being a fucking pussy and start being a man, it is not endeering to women to be so fucking "womanlike" Women DO NOT LIKE THAT!!!

This is true. Almost every woman want a guy who can be sensitive sometimes and not a crushing-beer-cans-on-your-forehead-jock all of the time but this is the whole other end of the spectrum. If I wanted to date a girl, I'd date a girl.