Fuck on the First Date?

[violachick8]

As a recently single gal I've been trying to figure out the rules of dating and whatnot. Its been surprisingly more difficult than I initially thought. Thusly I am wondering when is it a good idea to fuck if you really really like somebody? Is the first date too soon if you want something more possibly (relationship wise) to happen eventually? The thing that brought this up is that I had skype sex with a guy I met on OkCupid after talking to him for about 5 hours on Friday. We made a date for yesterday and he canceled. My roommate is convinced that the reason he canceled is because he already got what he wanted. I had a fun time and I dont regret what I did at all.I am just sort of left wondering whats the best course of action in general and did I fuck up in this situation specifically?

[Sparrow]

Got what he wanted? I have a hard time swallowing what he wanted stopped at skyping. Real pussy > Digital Cause it's warm and you can put your penis in it.

I don't know the first thing about dating and the games everybody plays with each other make no fucking sense to me, so I'm inclined to say if you want to have sex: have sex.

[Junkenstein]

If he really got what he wanted on skype and doesnt want to date with you anymore, he's an idiot and a lousy lay. Skype Sex isnt Sex. Its a fun pastime to have when the real thing isnt available.

How can you feel satisfied when you havent touched skins, felt each other taste, scratched each other and discovered each other spots that drive you insane. Sex is the deal breaker and the greatest way to make a date really meaningful.

If he ditched you for that, you dodged a lousy lay or a guy with serious issues.

But if you feel that you really like him, give him another chamce and have sex. Real Sex. See if he's worth your worries and feelings. Talk, face to face. Have a real kiss, enjoying each other lips and bodies. pacing to each other's heart.

Thats the real heart of any attraction. If he doesnt want or get that.... say goodbye.

[BrianAlt]

Most likely he freaked out.

As for having sex right away, not doing it might keep him coming back a few more times. But if he really likes you and you have sex, he will definitely come back again. If not, he won't. And maybe you won't want him back either.

[NoArmsJames]

I'm not nearly as experienced at dating and the 'rules' and all of that as most on here so keep that in mind. If you wanna fuck than fuck. My opinion of a women won't change based on when we have sex. If I like you I like you. Sex is great, I love sex but it's a secondary thing for me when it comes to how I feel about a woman.

[marina]

I say fuck if you want to fuck.

However, when Dr. BF and I first started dating, he was of the opinion that unless all you want to do is fuck, then sex should wait until you know each other better. I thought it was stupid, but he was really fun, so I held off.

Sometimes I think that things would have worked out no matter how we got together, other times I think he was probably right. For a sex focused person like myself, it's possible I wouldn't have taken the time to know what a great guy he is if we'd fucked right away, because I'd already have what I wanted from the deal, not knowing I was missing out on an incredible friendship in addition to an incredible fuck.

But not every guy is meant to be your best friend and lover, sometimes they're just a fuck and there's nothing wrong with that. So I guess I'm back to fuck if you want to fuck.

[bofadeeznizzles]

You have to go with your gut, but not "if you want to fuck, fuck." Sometimes you can tell that someone really likes who you are. In that case, I only see upside. But I've had a gal sleep with me on the first date. It turned into a scenario for me where I liked hanging out with her and then fucking. It didn't occur to me for a LONG time that she actually really liked me and wanted a relationship. I guess sometimes dudes are dumb and if it isn't obvious that you're fucking him b/c you have some real feelings, he might think he just found a new booty call. And sometimes a gal just needs a new booty call! Bah fuck, I forgot what I was saying....

[crecentroll]

Does anyone else get turned on by just reading or hearing the word "fuck"?
This may soon become my favorite thread, but then again I'm just a pervert.

I say go for it you want. Relationships should happen naturally and not be forced by the parameters we set for ourselves. Sometimes things don't work out, and that's ok...sometimes they do.
I think people need to stop focusing so much on the ends and enjoys the means a little more.

[Rhian]

Originally Posted by crecentroll

Does anyone else get turned on by just reading or hearing the word "fuck"?
This may soon become my favorite thread, but then again I'm just a pervert.

I say go for it you want. Relationships should happen naturally and not be forced by the parameters we set for ourselves. Sometimes things don't work out, and that's ok...sometimes they do.
I think people need to stop focusing so much on the ends and enjoys the means a little more.

This.

[benjita]

I'm about as far from an expert as there is, but I'm in the "fuck if you feel like it's right".

My only first date fuck, it was good that I did. I went through the works with her, going down, fingers and fucking. Multiple times. But it made me realize I couldn't have a long term relationship with her. It may seem petty, but she didn't like being on top and when we tried, she sucked at it. She was also very submissive and wanted me to dominate, which isn't my style, I'm more of a tender her-first person. All in all, it was close to the worst sex I've ever had, and it just nagged at me. Bad kisser (I know my tongue isn't long but I use what I have), bad blowjob (teeth!) and lazy as fuck.

I'm actually glad that one got the sex out of the way. I could be friends with her, but isn't dating about finding that perfect someone? I'm good at sex. Not a big dick or solid body or strong hands, but my effort and touch is the best all girls I've had have ever had (and they tell me this after we break up). I want my perfect someone to enjoy my touch, but also be into it, and give me a little pleasure in return (after she's gotten off a couple times).

My current girlfriend, if you can call her that, pretty much blocks my advances. I enjoy being with her, but our last date goodbye kiss? Closed lip. Yeah, I don't think that's going to work either.

Long story sum up: it needs to be mutual, and if it is, who's stopping you?