Fuck on the First Date?

[marina]

Originally Posted by FletchLives

do what makes your vagina happy.

personal motto

[campy]

I'm on the hold it for now band wagon.


If you want to play the "game" I feel that most people like to chase the carrot a bit. It's elongated foreplay.

Without any "game" thinking, it takes time to figure a person out. If your intention is more then a one off thing or a fuck buddy situation you may want to investigate this other soul a bit before you hand him all the goodies.

I had done the deed on the first date and usually didn't get very far. THere were times when I didn't, they expected it and never called again. The ones that really lasted were the ones that invested time in getting to know me first and didn't expect it on the first date. If it would have happened it wouldn't have scared them off because the intent to make a go of it was there from the beginning.

[Junkenstein]

what you mean by changes the game?

i dont consider skype sex as actual sex. if all you had with a person is mutual jerking through a web cam, you didnt have sex. there hasnt been more contact between you and said person than you might have with a pornstar in a video. yeah you knwo each other (and even that up to a certain point), but sex is a physical interaction. i think there should be even limits to using the term.

[FletchLives]

Originally Posted by Junkenstein

what you mean by changes the game?

i dont consider skype sex as actual sex. if all you had with a person is mutual jerking through a web cam, you didnt have sex. there hasnt been more contact between you and said person than you might have with a pornstar in a video. yeah you knwo each other (and even that up to a certain point), but sex is a physical interaction. i think there should be even limits to using the term.

there's all kinds of sex these days. phone sex, sexting, skype sex, ear sex... the possibilities are endless. i hope to one day invent a new sex act.

[violachick8]

Originally Posted by Junkenstein

what you mean by changes the game?

i dont consider skype sex as actual sex. if all you had with a person is mutual jerking through a web cam, you didnt have sex. there hasnt been more contact between you and said person than you might have with a pornstar in a video. yeah you knwo each other (and even that up to a certain point), but sex is a physical interaction. i think there should be even limits to using the term.

I dont consider it real sex either. I was more meaning actual full penis in vagina sex as the general question and the skype sex situation as a separate thing entirely.

[Junkenstein]

Originally Posted by FletchLives

there's all kinds of sex these days. phone sex, sexting, skype sex, ear sex... the possibilities are endless. i hope to one day invent a new sex act.

well, i still am old school and think that real sex requires the interaction of bodies, where the others are mostly fun pastimes that have nothing to do with the real thing.

good to do, yeah, but still not even in the same universe.

[violachick8]

Originally Posted by slampokes

You know what though? I think if I was having an ongoing relationship with the person, and we'd had Real Sex, I might count Skype sex along with the Real Thing.

Anyway, not the point. Vi, what's your deadline for reasonably hearing back from this guy?

Fuck if I know whats acceptable or not.I figure sooner is better than later cause it shows he is interested really. I honestly have let the hope sail on him cause of wht someone on here said about being specific with the excuse and he wasnt specific at all.

[Junkenstein]

Originally Posted by slampokes

I also don't count blowjobs.

yeah, oral sex should be a good natured thing you can do for each other. no big deal.

although a guy/girl who is a bad head giver gives a red flag for the future.

[FletchLives]

Originally Posted by violachick8

Fuck if I know whats acceptable or not.I figure sooner is better than later cause it shows he is interested really. I honestly have let the hope sail on him cause of wht someone on here said about being specific with the excuse and he wasnt specific at all.

with this guy it probably is best to just let him be gone forever. different rules apply with people met over the dating sites. he's probably on okcupid because he wants the women without any form of commitment.

[violachick8]

Originally Posted by slampokes

I don't know the protocol for politeness/"three day call rule" in this situation, so that's why I was asking. Sorry if I sound obsessed, this is just really interesting!

But if he hasn't gotten in touch, the bottom line is fuck that guy, he's missing out. You're drop dead gorgeous and I want to snuggle you and feed you cocktails. Have you invented a Skype way to do that yet? I'M SO LEFT OUT OF THIS TECHNOLOGY.

Yeah thats what I figured. My dating sagas are always interesting mostly because I am a floundering fish in a very big scary pond. His choice to miss out I suppose. Thanks pokes I will get to work on getting that whole skype cuddle thing worked out. Otherwise I may have to go see the Great White North.