My wife just left me, please help

[Dean from Australia]

Originally Posted by Adamus

I didn't meet her or respond to her text. She just texted me and said that she was coming by the house in 90 minutes. Not sure what I'm even going to say to her. I know it's over. I'm just going to try and be as calm as possible, listen to whatever she has to say and move on. She's already hurt me so much and has taken so much from me, I'm not going to let myself be a victim any more. Fuck. I don't know how she is anymore. This is not the woman I fell in love with.

And remember that - She is not the woman you fell in love with. She is a stranger to you now. Treat her accordingly.

[Adamus]

She just came here, said it was over, with no emotion at all and left. I really want to die right now. I don't understand this. Why?

[Sparrow]

Feel your feelings babe. Gnash your teeth. Scream. Cry your eyes blueblack. Get it all from the bowels of your fury and unleash it out into space-time.

put your brainspatter here if you need a place for it to go.

Feel your feelings. but, do set your alarm to get up, wash your face, and walk your dog. little sunrise and morning air will feel good after the storm.

here if'n you need

[Sparrow]

also, don't call her or send texts/emails/internet messages. you're feeling your feelings and those are for you. those things will also bite your ass if things get dirty.

[Dean from Australia]

Likewise mate. Message me if you need to vent or anything.

She has laid down the ground rules. It sucks, it hurts, it has destroyed you. But, if there is any way that you can see through this and know that you can prevail, you CAN prevail.

You have to try and formulate a plan now. And that begins with the hard nut stuff.

Surely there is a legal eagle on these boards that might consider helping Adamus out!! Better still...if you have a PayPal account...

...what's the address?

[Adamus]

I really started to lose it after my last post and was going to a very dark place. So, I called the only friend I have left in this city and she came right over and spent the night here with me. I'm really great full for that...I don't know what would have happened if I would have stayed alone. I'm a little better now, but my heart aches so much. This is such a nightmare. I don't understand how someone who once loved me could be so cold, emotionless and heartless.

Thanks again for all your support. You're really helping me through this. Oh, how I wish April 15th was this week. I could really use a fun night with good people.

[Dean from Australia]

Originally Posted by Adamus

Thanks again for all your support. You're really helping me through this. Oh, how I wish April 15th was this week. I could really use a fun night with good people.

Like I said mate, toss us your paypal address if you have one. I can chip in a little bit in a couple days and I'm sure that there are a few others that might do the same.

If it gets you some groceries or a bottle or two of single malt...

[Adamus]

Originally Posted by Dean from Australia

Like I said mate, toss us your paypal address if you have one. I can chip in a little bit in a couple days and I'm sure that there are a few others that might do the same.

If it gets you some groceries or a bottle or two of single malt...

Thanks, Dean. I appreciate that, but I'm good for money. Right now I'm just desperate for emotional support. Thank fuck for all of you. Talking to you guys is one of the only things that's keeping me from jumping off a bridge right now.

[punk'n]

*Hugs* So sorry to hear about that last conversation.

You'll get through it....we're here for ya.

[campy]

Hi Adam

First (hugs) You'll get through this my dear, it is one of life's reality checks.

I have a couple of comments. I heard you on the KATG episode yesterday and I think you are handling this with a ton of grace and character. Even calling your wife a really great lady. To have a positive attitude despite going through a break up while battling clinical depression shows a light , I am impressed.


I am going to say this, your wife is doing the best thing she can for you under the circumstances. She is taking the bandaid right off. There is no mind fucking going on here. That would be the worst case scenario for a guy like you who experiences the world more acutely then most. It isn't a pretty approach, she comes across as a cunt but down the road when you are over this pain you will thank her.

My other thought is that you shouldn't think that what you are feeling right now is that far off what a guy in your situation would be feeling who doesn't suffer from clinical depression. A break up is isolating, lonely, sad and depressing. The complication for you is back sliding into something deeper. But we all go through those feelings, you aren't alone.

Keep your chin up, your options open, seek help from the forums or professionally if you feel things are getting out of control. Keep busy and do things that you love. You will make it through this and when you do you will be a little stronger and a little more rounded.