Virginity

[Diana]

If you did, at what age did you lose yours? Did you regret it? And what do you think about saving it until marriage? Is it really that much of a special thing?

[sunny-dee]

lost it the summer i was sixteen. no i don't regret it. yes it was special, but not what i expected.

[BrianAlt]

I had just turned 16. Was with my girlfriend. I was young, she was younger, but I still say it was right. It was, in fact, pretty perfect.

[Incognito]

15. No. Silly. Subjective.

[Bebe]

15, I was drunk, got preggo, didn't particularly enjoy it but I don't regret it since I got my beautiful wonderful son out of it.

Waiting until marriage is just an outmoded concept IMHO. In NZ about half of all couples choose not to marry when they have children. Marriage is increasingly seen as something fun to do, but not necessary.

[thepetek]

Originally Posted by Diana

If you did, at what age did you lose yours? Did you regret it? And what do you think about saving it until marriage? Is it really that much of a special thing?

Who is he? And do the forums approve of him?

But use a condom, Bebe non withstanding. The US isn't all rainbows and hobbits like New Zealand.

[Rhian]

14. Not my idea. Grew to not care what I did, I wasn't stupid or reckless though.

Never thought about saving myself for marriage, though.
I've heard that some people who are saving for marriage do everything but penetration, not sure if that counts.

It's all subjective, and do it for the right reasons for you, not what the society appears to dictate.

You want to be in control for your comfort zone.

[bpinsky33]

I'm the loser of the group 22. I never had the option in high school and once my thought was that I didn't want to have sex until I knew I could raise a child. Not that I don't use protection, but mistakes happen.

[typicallistener]

Originally Posted by Diana

If you did, at what age did you lose yours?

14

Originally Posted by Diana

Did you regret it?

no

Originally Posted by Diana

And what do you think about saving it until marriage?

for me at the time? i wasn't thinking about that at all.

Originally Posted by Diana

Is it really that much of a special thing?

it's hard to say. right now i'm in love for the first time in several years, and surely there's a part of me who would have liked to be able to have given my virginity as a gift to my current serioso, but i recognize that that's a kneejerk impulse of my inner reflexive romantic and that all things being equal, i'm disease-free, and she's on the shot, and we're plenty happy where we're at. the fact that she wasn't a virgin from the onset of our relationship could hardly bear less on my mind or on my impression of her.

[RachaelBachael]

19 on the beach while on Spring Break (no seriously, on the beach). It was a random hookup but I don't regret it. I don't believe in saving yourself for marriage, but it should be when you are old enough and comfortable with yourself.