Virginity

[tempfoot]

Originally Posted by sully_04

13.

i dont understand the regret part? what is wrong with you people? why does everything have to be an issue, a defining moment or some earth shattering experience. .....................

its never a religious experience unless you create the delusion in your head that it is or will be or should be to make it right........................

Well - the ensuing discussion shows you should consider your audience. If you can't get laid in high school or otherwise can't get laid much at all - it probably is some kind of holy - almost unreachable imaginary state of existence. Even if you can get laid - making too big a mental deal of it can fuck up perfectly nice relationships.

...But I'm a dirty old man slut anyway.

Also - 15; Regret I didn't jump on it on earlier opportunities; whatever; losing it - I hear it hurts girls, doing it - well - I like it.

Like many other things you get better at it with more practice whether with one person or many.

[Kale]

I was 17, with a serious girl friend. First time wasn't great, but practice, practice, practice. I spent a lot of time have oral sex with a previous girl friend, for over a year (she wanted to wait for marriage (Catholics ) No one should wait until marriage. That idea was pushed when most people were married by 18. In no way do I regret it. The only reason to regret it is if you were pressured into it and not ready.

[tga]

I was 15 years old. It was with a girl believe it or not. Don't regret it and my thinking at the time was that I would rather get it out of the way and practice it before I was to ever get married. It was special in it's own way as it was a coming of age thing maybe but it wasn't anything that involved love and real true affection.

[Laktose]

Lost it at 16 to a girl of 15. The first time was terrible. I had no idea how to fuck properly, and it hurt her. Half way through the 2nd time though, things clicked into place, we got some rhythm together, and the end result was fantastic

There was a long build up as I remember. This is like 12 or so years ago so the details are vague now. I remember there was a big build up, like we when to the chemist and bought the condoms together (how cute huh?). We talked about it loads, and I think she talked it over with her mum and she was cool with it as I remember. Strange, I wouldn't want to have to go through those days again to be honest.

[DaHonay]

I was 17 - dating my HS sweetheart for almost a year - he was a year younger than me but wasn't a virgin. We had lots of hot and steamy makeout sessions before I gave it up. I was spending the night at a friend's house whose mom happend to be out of town for the weekend. It was FANTASTIC! I came twice... seriously.

After that, I couldn't get enough. Still can't. I was fortunate to have someone that knew what he was doing, knew how to tell me what to do, and listened to me and my needs. I thank him... where ever he is!

[DaHonay]

OH! If you ever have the chance to see the off Broadway play My First Time... it totally rocks! So many different stories and experiences and feelings. Saw it last time we were in NYC and LOVED it!

http://http://www.myfirsttimetheplay.com/

[LabMonkey]

I was 21. He was 24. Not my boyfriend. Just a boy I was fooling around with. It was just time and I knew I would be ok with whatever happened later.

I don't think waiting til marriage is the way to go. I think that you need to make sure you are ready for all the consequences though, whether that is heartbreak, preggers or crabs.
I strongly believe that if you think you are ready for sex, you should have to walk into a store and buy the condoms yourself. If you can't do that, you are not ready. I am also a strong believer in having a talk about STD testing before have sex with someone. People should be tested regularly if they are sleeping with multiple people but they don't do it, so it is up to you to protect yourself and ask them when they were last and what the results were. I am going to step off my soap box now and go study my pathogenic bacteria....

[Cart Horse]

Originally Posted by DaHonay

I was 17 - dating my HS sweetheart for almost a year - he was a year younger than me but wasn't a virgin. We had lots of hot and steamy makeout sessions before I gave it up. I was spending the night at a friend's house whose mom happend to be out of town for the weekend. It was FANTASTIC! I came twice... seriously.

After that, I couldn't get enough. Still can't. I was fortunate to have someone that knew what he was doing, knew how to tell me what to do, and listened to me and my needs. I thank him... where ever he is!

At Last! A happy first time.

[DaHonay]

First times don't have to be bad. As with anything... it's what you take away from the experience.

Don't go into it with any expectations. When you decide to do it... enjoy yourself. That's what sex - IMHO - is all about. Pleasure between 2 people.

As previously stated... saving it for marriage is a romantic, but antiquated notion.

[Rhian]

Originally Posted by craig0r

Haha yeah, I can't believe the City of Burlington trusted us youngsters with those keys. I definitely took girls to the pool late at night.

Slides? Yeah our very own mile-high club.

Note - it's not where I work now.