Virginity

[BrianAlt]

Originally Posted by Cart Horse

At Last! A happy first time.

I said my first time was great. But I'll give details this time.

My HS girlfriend was 14, I was 15. It was the end of September, my birthday is in October, hers is in November. She was drunk and told me she wanted to do it. We had been talking about it for some time. I told her no. I wanted to be sure she really wanted to move forward. The next day when she was sober she said she WAS ready. You can believe I was looking forward for our next time alone.

It was just after my 16th birthday. We were alone in my house. We did it and I orgasmed in a few minutes, no surprise. We sat up and looked at it other and we both said, "WOW!" Then I asked her, "do you want to do it again?" She gave me an enthusiastic YES. So we did it again. And she had an orgasm, no clitoral stimulation. The surprising thing is that she never had another orgasm after that without clitoral stimulation.

It was a great experience for both of us. We were young, she was younger, but it just seemed right for us.

[sully_04]

Originally Posted by tempfoot

Well - the ensuing discussion shows you should consider your audience.

yea, i know. I was bored at work making overtime and figured there would be a few dungeons and dragons nerds who were going to love to give me their never been laid opinions.

i picked the fight for my own amusement.

but i guess this is the point, when you have sex at a young age, it gives you more time to learn the power of manipulation for self serving purposes and I dont think it is necessarily a bad thing.

[pala]

My first time I was 14, the girl was 19. (your not going to believe this but meh here goes) She was a Clog Dancer with a bluegrass band. I was on the trip with my grandparents in Kansas City, Missouri (was just along for the free hotel and they signed me out of school early on friday). Didn't even go to the concert I was in the hot tub soaking up the free hotel amenities. She came to the hot tub, was very aggressive, I knew about sex of course but I sure as hell didn't know about advances by women. She asked me back to her hotel room and "manhandled" me is the only term I can think of thats appropriate. Being a clog dancer she had legs that she wrapped around me like a python and just wouldn't let go. Of course being 14 I came in like 45 sec, she didn't care, she had plenty of time. We did it 4 more times that evening till I had to go back with my grandparents.

Do I regret it? Nope, at the time I didn't quite understand the magnitude of it, but it was pretty fun all the same. Later on I realized this girl was VERY experienced for 19 and she definately showed me around the bedroom.

Save for marriage? Absolutely not. If you do this you're just setting yourself up for disaster. People who haven't experienced sex don't understand that there are just people who don't do it for you sexually. There are many times it has nothing to do with looks or attraction, there is a certain "chemistry" that people have sexually, and if you don't find the right one you're going to be miserable in that aspect of your relationship and you may never know what its like to really enjoy sex.

[BrianAlt]

Originally Posted by pala

Later on I realized this girl was VERY experienced for 19 and she definitely showed me around the bedroom.

No diseases?

[craig0r]

Originally Posted by sully_04

lets try this. fuck you. I didnt ask you for behavior tips. dont assume that because I make a point that ruffels your World of Warcraft cape you have a obligation to tell me to settle down or modify my behavior to your liking.

to reiterate my first point. fuck you.

Point taken. But lemme ask you this, if someone were to walk into your place of work or home or wherever, and tell you that your views are ignorant and that what you believe in is puritanical bullshit, would you say "Hm, OK. Join us for dinner, won't you?"

Probably not, and I sure as hell wouldn't. So, fuck you too, sir.

[craig0r]

Originally Posted by Rhian

Slides? Yeah our very own mile-high club.

Note - it's not where I work now.

Ah, I never did anything with the slide. Two other lifeguards fucked on the diving board, I couldn't believe it. They had refinished the board, and it was tons rougher than sandpaper. Couldn't have been confortable.

[sully_04]

Originally Posted by craig0r

Point taken. But lemme ask you this, if someone were to walk into your place of work or home or wherever, and tell you that your views are ignorant and that what you believe in is puritanical bullshit, would you say "Hm, OK. Join us for dinner, won't you?"

Probably not, and I sure as hell wouldn't. So, fuck you too, sir.

i consider the source, smack them the fuck down either in person on virtually, as in your case, and move the fuck on.

so I am done with you, now run back to the world of warcraft and leave the rest of us non-wizards be.

[campy]

Originally Posted by Bebe

My ex was 34...

I have been with a couple of men who were virgins in their 20ties...only thing wrong with that is how they felt about themselves. Had to convince them they were just fine in bed and they were.

I personally was 18 and with someone I thought I loved. I did it because everyone else I knew was doing it so ....I don't regret it for a second. I am 36 and still not married so hells no I wouldn't have waited....a huge part of adult life is sex. I would never even consider marriage until I had tested the goods.

[craig0r]

Originally Posted by sully_04

i consider the source, smack them the fuck down either in person on virtually, as in your case, and move the fuck on.

so I am done with you, now run back to the world of warcraft and leave the rest of us non-wizards be.

Very clever assuming everyone on the internet who's not you is playing world of warcraft. But if you want the last word it's yours. You're still an asshole. But hey, so am I.

[lalalemon]

I lost mine a few weeks ago - I'm 18. I don't regret it. It wasn't really planned, but we had been talking about it and had actually agreed to wait until at least December. I mean, I was kind of overwhelmed after we were done, and had finally processed what had just happened. All I could think of/say was "We just fucked. Oh GOD- we just had sex. What the fuck we just fuckeddd." I got over it.

Yes, i am a little neurotic.

I think waiting until marriage is a nice idea, but not very realistic. People are getting married later in life... and are horny.

For me, virginity was a sort of special thing. I was one of last in my group of friends (composed mainly of a large number of sluts) to lose it, and I kind of liked being able to say I was still a virgin.

But thinking about it, giving out blow jobs like they were candy when I was sixteen makes me just as slutty as the rest of my skank-friends :/

all girls schools ftw.