Wedding So What Do We Do Now Story

[weejamer]

Originally Posted by germuhknee

Congratulations. And Svenja owes you big time now, so it's all good. If you guys ever need a babysitter, for example ...

Only if my wife forgives her

[ooda]

Originally Posted by weejamer

Only if my wife forgives her

I don't think anyone would blame your wife if she didn't. It was made all the more worse because it was a small wedding.

It isn't really something that can be gotten over in the short-term. Maybe in a month or so when the resentment has subsided a bit she can start looking at reconciling.

Though it wasn't right for her to make you guys feel guilty about it.

[weejamer]

Originally Posted by ooda

Though it wasn't right for her to make you guys feel guilty about it.

Thats what pisses me off about it otherwise i would maybe have been a little nicer on the phone (more nuteral).

I hate the guilt trip thing.

high low for that night

Low = Svenja made us feel guilty and bad about the situation and the friendship

High = Regardless me and the wife had wild sex that night and she came twice

[ooda]

Originally Posted by weejamer

Thats what pisses me off about it otherwise i would maybe have been a little nicer on the phone (more nuteral).

I hate the guilt trip thing.

high low for that night

Low = Svenja made us feel guilty and bad about the situation and the friendship

High = Regardless me and the wife had wild sex that night and she came twice

heh

[The Godfather]

Originally Posted by picard102

Holy shit, so she missed your wedding and you cut her out of your life?
She's better off without you.

Ridiculous.

A couple of years ago our friends showed at 6pm on xmas day with the mashed potatoes and bread. . . The only problem was that we scheduled dinnner for xmas eve at 6pm. If the chick is a bitch, cut her loose, but I have made some pretty fucked up mistakes in my life so I really cant judge her.

[william]

First of all, Congrats Dude!

An alternate:

...Less than 5 minutes later I get a call from SVENJA.

Shes crying and blubbering and mixing in German with English

She explains that she thought that the wedding was on Saturday and that she planned everything with the babysitter accordingly. Then she said she had a migraine and was lying in bed when she got our message (trying to make us feel bad).

I respond. "That sucks. OK. We'll talk to you later." Click.

[weejamer]

Originally Posted by william

First of all, Congrats Dude!

An alternate:

...Less than 5 minutes later I get a call from SVENJA.

Shes crying and blubbering and mixing in German with English

She explains that she thought that the wedding was on Saturday and that she planned everything with the babysitter accordingly. Then she said she had a migraine and was lying in bed when she got our message (trying to make us feel bad).

I respond. "That sucks. OK. We'll talk to you later." Click.

When you have a chick crying on the other end its kinda hard but Its noted for the next time....

next time i get call like that i mean...

[MichaelG]

Congrats, How was the honeymoon? make any grandkids?

Forgive her after opening her gift. If she spends above her income, you should forgive her.

Big deal she missed YOUR wedding. Was she supposed to bring the cake or the ring. Doubt it. Just know you got married and all was fine.

If you left her chair empty, that was the bad luck. If you removed her chair, long and happy marriage.

[weejamer]

Originally Posted by MichaelG

Congrats, How was the honeymoon? make any grandkids?

Forgive her after opening her gift. If she spends above her income, you should forgive her.

Big deal she missed YOUR wedding. Was she supposed to bring the cake or the ring. Doubt it. Just know you got married and all was fine.

If you left her chair empty, that was the bad luck. If you removed her chair, long and happy marriage.

Thanks MichaelG

Honeymoon was cool. Just chilled at home no work, no worries!

Working on the Grandkids.

Got no gift from her.

My Wife had a lot of issues with family so svenja could have brought moral support.

We called ahead to get the place removed for svenja. so check there.

[ooda]

Originally Posted by MichaelG

Congrats, How was the honeymoon? make any grandkids?

Forgive her after opening her gift. If she spends above her income, you should forgive her.

Big deal she missed YOUR wedding. Was she supposed to bring the cake or the ring. Doubt it. Just know you got married and all was fine.

If you left her chair empty, that was the bad luck. If you removed her chair, long and happy marriage.

Depends. Normally I doubt it would be all that big an issue, but here there seems to be a lot of animosity arising from the situation. That's what makes it hard to decide on how to deal with it. If it's just a mistake, then it should be treated as such (within reason).

I'm just thinking it looks like the wife is quite pissed at her, and with the planning that goes into weddings, this may have been the straw that broke the camel's back, friendship wise.