What was the lowest point in your life???

[Chronicle615]

hoshnobobo2.0, dude, I hope you get all your looking for. That is some tough stuff . I spent two nights in a walmart parking lot in transition from home to my new place. Left home earlier than I expected over family disputes. Sucks not having a place. Hope you get the promotion.

[hellbent]

Last year my father died. He was a difficult man to understand and not easy to get along with. I am the last of 6, 18 years behind the next one. All of my siblings are old and have houses. I do not and I was living with my father while me and the wife had our kids and helped my dad. I'd like to say that in Hawaii its different, that the real estate prices and cost of living are higher so alot of people live with family in large houses for longer, but if we had a choice, we would have moved out long ago.

I wanted to buy my fathers house from them (for less then market value) but they dont want to sell it to me. After weeks of fighting, arguing, and stress I caved and agreed to sell. This is the short version. I have 6 more months to move out.

I feel like they chose money over family.

I will never forgive them and do not plan to see them anymore after this is done. I am an now an only child.

[hoshnobobo2.0]

Originally Posted by hellbent

Last year my father died. He was a difficult man to understand and not easy to get along with. I am the last of 6, 18 years behind the next one. All of my siblings are old and have houses. I do not and I was living with my father while me and the wife had our kids and helped my dad. I'd like to say that in Hawaii its different, that the real estate prices and cost of living are higher so alot of people live with family in large houses for longer, but if we had a choice, we would have moved out long ago.

I wanted to buy my fathers house from them (for less then market value) but they dont want to sell it to me. After weeks of fighting, arguing, and stress I caved and agreed to sell. This is the short version. I have 6 more months to move out.

I feel like they chose money over family.

I will never forgive them and do not plan to see them anymore after this is done. I am an now an only child.

i know it feels bad now, but trust me, as somebody who had family pick money over me, cutting loose family was the best thing i ever did, i never hang out with anyone i dont like or am uncomfortable with, nobody expects more from me then i am willing to give, and you push your self to be better and not let yourself fail because you dont have a safety net.

[hoshnobobo2.0]

Originally Posted by Chronicle615

hoshnobobo2.0, dude, I hope you get all your looking for. That is some tough stuff . I spent two nights in a walmart parking lot in transition from home to my new place. Left home earlier than I expected over family disputes. Sucks not having a place. Hope you get the promotion.

thanks man, i hope everything turns around for you too. i know its hard but if you can find people around your own age with similar situations it really helps.
i started my own little community, we call ourselves OOA (Orphans of Arizona) we are all in our late teens and early twenties, underpaid, and from out of state with no local family or support. we all hang out and do holidays together (we go all out and keep it traditional even though none of us are religious), we also know that if any of us where ever in trouble we would have a couch to sleep on and people to help get us on our feet.

[campy]

Originally Posted by hellbent

Last year my father died. He was a difficult man to understand and not easy to get along with. I am the last of 6, 18 years behind the next one. All of my siblings are old and have houses. I do not and I was living with my father while me and the wife had our kids and helped my dad. I'd like to say that in Hawaii its different, that the real estate prices and cost of living are higher so alot of people live with family in large houses for longer, but if we had a choice, we would have moved out long ago.

I wanted to buy my fathers house from them (for less then market value) but they dont want to sell it to me. After weeks of fighting, arguing, and stress I caved and agreed to sell. This is the short version. I have 6 more months to move out.

I feel like they chose money over family.

I will never forgive them and do not plan to see them anymore after this is done. I am an now an only child.

I am seeing this shit with my dad and his siblings...it is so ugly. My grandmother reigns with guilt and favouritism so her children scramble around her trying to please her. Meanwhile she's sitting on a life savings that they are all dividing up in their heads. The last time she was sick my aunt wanted to have her basically "put out of her misery" with extra drugs and, of course, the other kids were mortified (My uncle started calling her Dr kevorkian). 6 weeks later she's right as rain (this one event changed my mind completely on Euthanasia)

It's an ugly clusterfuck that will tear my dad's family apart, after she dies none of them will speak again.

[marina]

My mom and uncle are already counting my grandma's money and she's not even sick, just old. The crazy thing is, they think she has a lot more than she actually has. At the top of the market, her house valued at 1 mil, but that was a temporary and inflated high due to all the sub-prime lending. She asked me what my opinion on the situation is and I told her that she can leave everything to those dogs if that's all they care about.

[WhiteWhale]

I was 13. Mom and I were homeless refugees and had no money and nowhere to live. She also had melanoma and was on chemo. Dad was back in Bosnia dodging bullets, conc camps or getting mobilized. The crazy thing is that we actually had it pretty damn good - half of Bosnia was scraping their loved one's body parts off the concrete at the times. Ah, the nineties.

[DWarrior]

Damn, some downers in here. I'll brighten up the day with my nonstory:

I suppose contemplating suicide must be the lowest point of anybody's life (if it only happens once). In 7th grade I got a C+ in social studies and had to get my report card signed. When I got home, my parents were in the kitchen. Out of naivete, I went to the bathroom and really contemplated suicide, but there were no pills (crazy doesn't run in the family) and no sharp objects (my dad must have not restocked his razors that day, plus he uses machs, so that would be tough to suicide with). Otherwise I bet I would have done something out of sheer childish stupidity. And similarly if my parents weren't home, I'd probably go for the knives in the kitchen. But they were home, so I didn't do anything dumb and got grounded for a semester.

I've had 2 Cs since then, but never freaked out over them. I've also had random life/monetary hardships, but I always lucked out of them, and they were never suicide-worthy so I don't think they can be considered lowest points.

[hellbent]

thanks guys, its nice to hear nice things. its not like im getting totally shafted, once the house sells i will have a nice downpayment for another but thats not the point.

theres been other lowpoints, but mines sounds trivial vs everyone elses. when things are down i guess you gotta remember the good times and that things will get better.

a friend impulsively drank developing fluid after her boyfriend and her had a fight. thing is, she was a talented artist and this boyfriend was military and had a girl back home in the states... one impulsive urge, one slip, and the end result was her slowly dying in the hospital.. over a boy.

[campy]

Originally Posted by hellbent

thanks guys, its nice to hear nice things. its not like im getting totally shafted, once the house sells i will have a nice downpayment for another but thats not the point.

theres been other lowpoints, but mines sounds trivial vs everyone elses. when things are down i guess you gotta remember the good times and that things will get better.

a friend impulsively drank developing fluid after her boyfriend and her had a fight. thing is, she was a talented artist and this boyfriend was military and had a girl back home in the states... one impulsive urge, one slip, and the end result was her slowly dying in the hospital.. over a boy.

OMG

How fucking tragic...how old is she???