Where the fuck are girls?

[Anxious Nerd]

Originally Posted by doctorsleep

I actually abstain from masturbating on Valentines day and other holidays, the sadness is just...to much

I rather feel like I'm feeding the troll, but....

You've been told you're not ready yet:
Are you happy with yourself yet? Has your body image improved? Are you pursuing and enjoying your interests? Are you able to talk and be friendly with strangers? Are you able to have fun and make a fool of yourself occasionally? Can you socialise without a burning ulterior motive showing through? You don't need to be great at everything, but at least be able to see the path.

If you enjoy hanging out at bars, then hang out at bars. If you're not sure, then make your aim just to get used to hanging out at bars (baby steps). Preferably go somewhere that you enjoy or are comfortable at.

If you talk to people, then just talk to people. If you don't get on with someone, then talk to someone else. Are you ready to handle rejection?

[Jo_Culprit]

Originally Posted by doctorsleep

pre-finals non-stress fat state.

what happened to working out and building up your potential?

I guarantee the girls you have your eye on are way out of your league.
If you're so desperate do the following:
- Couch to 5k program (treadmill or otherwise): you'll be thankful you'ev done this when you've done it.
- Set weekly weight goals and a daily work out routine. Aim for a BMI of 22 or something.
- Do some research on that birthmark of yours, every bit of plugging the internet for information I've done on it suggests that there are solutions out there for getting rid of it.

Originally Posted by doctorsleep

...red text and silliness..

I found all that red text internal monologue stuff fascinating insight into your mind.
Dont get me wrong theyre accurate, however it doesnt mean that the bookstore, campus classes etc aren't good places to meet girls just because at the moment you come across like a creep. Other guys would slay in these situations and why? because they do the following:
- pick their entry smoothy
- dont carry conversation like a gormless ape
- dont have facial birthmarks and fat

[DudeEMETIB]

Considering that just a bit over half of the population is female, the "girls" are almost literally everywhere.

Don't go to a bar, first, think of your interests, then go to a place where people will share that interest. Meet someone there.

If you like music, but somehow I feel you'll surprise (or not) me and say you don't...go to a local live show.

You like books? Go to a bookstore.

It's SO NOT HARD to start a conversation with a girl. Remember, they're just people. Jeez.

To go with the bookstore example, don't stalk anyone out like a creep, but you see someone, say they're holding a book, let's say...Guns, Germs, and Steel, you can casually say, "That's a really good book." she might say "oh you've read it?" you say "yeah I'm into history..." or "yeah, I had to read it for a class" w/e bam, you're talking.

Just say things and don't be a creep.
It's so easy Doc, it really is.

I wish I could help you.

[Jo_Culprit]

Originally Posted by doctorsleep

Half joke/half serious

I really don't like to do it on Valentines day, its just another reminder

"Hey, get used to this feeling because no one is EVER going to do this for you without money involved asshole!!"

As an addendum to this internal monologue.

No one is ever going to do this for you without money involved if you continue to sit on your ass and make excuses.

[doctorsleep]

Originally Posted by Anxious Nerd

I rather feel like I'm feeding the troll, but....

You've been told you're not ready yet:
Are you happy with yourself yet? Has your body image improved? Are you pursuing and enjoying your interests? Are you able to talk and be friendly with strangers? Are you able to have fun and make a fool of yourself occasionally? Can you socialise without a burning ulterior motive showing through? You don't need to be great at everything, but at least be able to see the path.

If you enjoy hanging out at bars, then hang out at bars. If you're not sure, then make your aim just to get used to hanging out at bars (baby steps). Preferably go somewhere that you enjoy or are comfortable at.

If you talk to people, then just talk to people. If you don't get on with someone, then talk to someone else. Are you ready to handle rejection?

If I don't get out there then I will NEVER really be ready. I don't want to bring the "I'm running out of time" thing back into this, but FUCK I'm going to be 23 this year, damn.

Like I said that this post came after the onset of an anger episode, I kicked a trashcan in the bathroom and broke it off its lock.

[Jo_Culprit]

Originally Posted by doctorsleep

Like I said that this post came after the onset of an anger episode, I kicked a trashcan in the bathroom and broke it off its lock.

So you get angry at the trashcan?

What the fuck are you doing at this point in time to improve yourself and make yourself datable sleep?

[campy]

Turn off the internal dialogue that's just screwing with your obvious smooth style....then go to a bar, like everyone else....they're all there waiting for their 3 a.m. night in shining armour

[doctorsleep]

Originally Posted by Jo_Culprit

What the fuck are you doing at this point in time to improve yourself and make yourself datable sleep?

Got a job and saving money, losing weight and working out a bit more, made a female friend who said that she wants to help me get a girlfriend (though she hasn't given me any leads yet) and wants to take me out to a club with her.

also, I learned how to drink like a normal person so weather or not a girl drinks is no big deal to me (I used to want to meet a girl who didn't drink, but I know that's impossible, so if you can't beat them join them...I did not mean that in a woman beating kind of way)

[Anxious Nerd]

Originally Posted by doctorsleep

Got a job and saving money, losing weight and working out a bit more, made a female friend who said that she wants to help me get a girlfriend (though she hasn't given me any leads yet) and wants to take me out to a club with her.

also, I learned how to drink like a normal person so weather or not a girl drinks is no big deal to me (I used to want to meet a girl who didn't drink, but I know that's impossible, so if you can't beat them join them...I did not mean that in a woman beating kind of way)

*Sheds a tear* (so proud)

[Jo_Culprit]

Originally Posted by doctorsleep

Got a job and saving money, losing weightand working out a bit more , made a female friend who said that she wants to help me get a girlfriend (though she hasn't given me any leads yet) and wants to take me out to a club with her.
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also, I learned how to drink like a normal person so weather or not a girl drinks is no big deal to me

Originally Posted by doctorsleep

my body has restored itself to its pre-finals non-stress fat state.

What are you losing the same few pounds over and over again. The job, the money and the friend parts are all well and good but you cant hold onto whatever little improvements you've made so far when you need to do so much more. Lastly if your finding yourself angry at your situation, fucken channel that energy into positive action to change yourself for fuck sake.

And if your going to continue to post advice here, Id say an update photo is in order.

Whats your BMI at the moment?