11: What Does Keith Do Now?

[Keith]

Yes. You figured it out.

[Lanfear]

Please don't make her come to a meeting in person just to be dumped. Nice gentle text message, be firm without going into too much detail.

And while it would have been nice and less traumatizing for her if you could have figured out that you have no chemistry earlier (like when you kissed passionately on the street?) it is what it is - if you are not attracted to her there is no forcing it and that's not your fault.

[Keith]

We kiss for the first time: “You know what actually? No thanks. Bye!”

[Lanfear]

Kissing is usually the first time you get close to somebody and at least for me chemistry is about smells and touch and taste.

So yes, I have been pretty interested in a guy and decided that I don't actually want to go further after no sparks flew while kissing.

[punk'n]

Don't take that girl out to dinner to tell her you're done with her. I actually like the fade out method cos what you were saying about that lady made me SO glad I'm not single....yeesh.

But if you're gonna be straight with her, a text is fine. Chemda is a trip (LOVE YOU, BUT) no one wants to hear this news in person.

[thirteen]

Noooooooo, Keith

my heart

[bw81]

Ah damn! I had Fridays KATG show with Lucy ready to listen to but when I saw the title of this episode and the blurb about "sad news", I had to find out what was doin.

Now I'm listening to Fridays show, clearly before Pound Town became Soft Village, and it's hard to hear Keith beaming about his love... not knowing his own Crazy Train is about to derail him from the tunnel of love. There was a lot of expectation and pressure for this moment to go well and that could've put you both off your game but if there is no sexual energy... is it worth working at it, shouldn't it be a little effortless? Or is that too presumptuous?

Imagine trying again, it's still very bad, then having to have THAT conversation. And you know she would probably try even harder second time round (not sure that's the wording I mean but you know what I mean).

It's hard to know what is the "right" way to tell her in this scenario, but I think Keith is making the right choice stopping it now. Your sex life has to match up, you can't force yourself to be into someone in that way. And over time the mismatch will just fester and Keith will run out of kinks to run through his head just to keep in the game.

I guess Sparrow is right, first stop Pound Town, then add feelings. If you aren't sexually compatible then you won't have to invest so much time into each other only to come (or not cum) to the same conclusion once those feelings are there.

[Enunciated Piffle]

Originally Posted by Apia

But I'm not for the fade. It takes longer I the end because you always wonder.

If you can’t pick up what’s being put down; you should not be dating. The fade is tried and true method. Not making further plans, or texting, or calling - it should always be a hint.

Bad sex is an unspoken deal breaker. It never gets better. Total waste of time.

[Mermaid]

This was a really good first dating experience.

Everyone after this is probably going to be a disappointment. But with better sex lol

[Enunciated Piffle]

I can see it now. In German even.

“Dear Mr Apia. I’m smoking weed and banging American women now. Normally I would fade out but I wanted to communicate this news to you clearly..”