3282: Karen

[Keith]

Keith’s musical taste; COVID-19 and street drinking; Indian holy men and COVID exorcisms; BLM, SNL’s Jay Pharoah’s neck vs. officer’s knee, defunding the police, and how to catch racists; after denying it, the Secret Service admits to pepper spraying peaceful protesters; Black Trans Lives Matter and LGBTQ anti-discrimination laws; listener debates telling family about his abuse; Karens

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[FingerLakes]

I believe a Susan is the final form of a Karen and I just thought I'd put this here because of my answer to the poll

[Sparrow]

why do Karens hang out in parking lots?

[Keith]

https://www.awesomelyluvvie.com/2020...cky-susan.html

[porky2468]

I'm listening to the part about Mike, and I have to say I agree with Keith on this one. Rape and abuse isn't sex. And from what I could tell, it started happening to him when he was about 7? So by beating around the bush, it would be making things confusing for the kid. Obv you don't want to offload your trauma onto your kid, Chemda was right on that part. But by giving mild examples (if someone takes their genitals out in front of you, if someone tries to touch your genitals or have you touch theirs) you can make sure they know what is and isn't ok. And I guess by saying it happened to him it would take the shame away from it if it did ever happen to the kid.

Regardless, Mike should do whatever he's comfortable doing and he's lucky he has such a loving and supportive wife.

[bagelwagel]

Brooklyn wasn't even the second city to paint "Black Lives Matter" on the street. Oakland had a week before Brooklyn. The reporter didn't bother to even check.

[Apia resurrected]

I was surprised by the supreme court decision and it made me a bit happy that not everyone is a monster.

[N8*]

Word power and now names have action Peoples

[shoebootie]

I was absolutely floored by Mike's situation, as I could have written the exact letter almost. Being abused by the teen son of our close family friend from a young age. Our parents were close friends, the two families would even vacation together. I'd blocked it out of my memory for years, not wanting to say anything to my family, alcoholic mom & dad who will do something rash. He'd beat the shit out of my aunt's boyfriend when he found out that guy was beating her.

My father died, my alcoholic mother died. Statute of Limitations had well passed. I don't care about hurting the abuser's family, so I reached out to them on FB, engaged in casual banter first before I hit them with the "your son fucking raped me" news. Told them the details, to keep him away from kids, and then I blocked them all. I needed no further commentary from them, as it wasn't up for debate. I'd felt some sense of relief/closure for having gotten it out there.

Mike, I'm sorry you went through this. You're not alone, and your need to want to protect others is still so admirable despite everything you endured. You needed protecting and didn't get it. I'm so sorry.

[littlp]

Re: the sex abuse.
1. Definitely be talking to a therapist to help you walk through this.
2. You likely were not the only one who was abused. Most often, kids who abuse other kids have been abused themselves. And like you said, they likely didn’t know. But it still affected you. And sex abusers very rarely only have one victim. I wonder if your brother went through the same thing.
3. Like KEith and a Chemda said-you aren’t responsible for how other people respond. That is on them. You can’t make people relapse-if they do they’ve been looking for a reason they would use any justification.
4. Talk to the therapist about how to have an age appropriate conversation with your son. You don’t have to give him the nitty gritty details as to what happened to you, but it is important for him to know that if ANYONE ever does anything that makes them uncomfortable that you would want to know.



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