2791: Friend Zone

[Skyler]

I voted no, I used to, but do not use them now that i'm in a relationship. Hope that doesn't affect the science.

[Sparrow]

and let us not discount the happyfeels of watching a bruise bloom. it's a gift; a reminder. soreness is like the delight of being surprised by someone's perfume b/c it immediately takes you back somewhere.

[Mermaid]

I've only ever bruised once in my life. And I was like 8.

The amount of force it would take for a bruise to show up on adult me would be beyond excessive.

We'd have to fight cause you literally just tried to end my life.

[lizsquiz]

Jessie is so right about not going to text before meeting in person.

This just happened to me. Went to text too early. It was like a week of texting back and forth building up banter before meeting in person. Which then of course was a disappointment, only made worse by the fact the text banter had been so good.

Don't overinvest, people.

[kimm]

OMG, when Chemda said there should be a list of all of the people who recommended The Secretary and proceeded to describe how basically the main character wanted to have sex with a child....

The one and only person who recommended that movie to me as being hot was my first boss at an office job. I was 20 and got a job working at the university I was attending as her assistant. She asked me a lot about my sex and dating life, which I thought was odd. ( I was 20 but looked really young. I’m 30 now and people still think I’m underage at times...)I was weird and evasive about it. I have trouble in that arena due to abuse in my childhood. It’s almost like she could smell that on me. She would make comments about psychology all of the time... I didn’t know it was weird and thought she was trying to be helpful. I shared an office with her for my entire time at the university.

Two years ago she was all over the news. She’d been picked up in a nationwide federal investigation on dark web child porn trading and selling. She had been transmitting massive quantities of child porn on her phone, home and Work computers... routing it through remote servers in Russia. In the court proceeding they brought out messages she’d sent to others in that world, bragging about how she abused her son from infancy but he’d grown too old for her tastes (about 13). She ran the church youth group at her church. She has tons of nieces and nephews that would stay at her house for movie nights.

She had a previous career in running group counseling groups for convicted sex offenders. She probably just got off on their stories...... ����
I couldn’t be more fucking disgusted and traumatized that I shared an office with this woman and she could have been doing this shit while I was in the same office doing her job.

So, Chemda, you had it right in this case!!!

[thirteen]

Originally Posted by lizsquiz

Jessie is so right about not going to text before meeting in person.

This just happened to me. Went to text too early. It was like a week of texting back and forth building up banter before meeting in person. Which then of course was a disappointment, only made worse by the fact the text banter had been so good.

Don't overinvest, people.

It's being called premature escalation.

If you continuously text a person you haven't met yet and they're an expert at charming people via texts, you build up ideas of who they are and what you two can be. You'll have high expectations and if it doesn't go anywhere it can be more heartbreaking than it would've been otherwise. Whether you're communicating via text or the app (I prefer text because dating apps become exhausting after a while), always meet up with them in person as soon as you can.

[Mermaid]

Isn't being attracted to women who act child-like the cultural norm?

school girl outfits
"teen" porn
Sex workers using a baby voice to get more money


I get the power dynamic thing tho.

But I guess it wouldn't turn me on as much if I had to pretend to be weak/dumb/naive/a child in order to be dominated.

The turn on for me comes from actually being dominated. I don't want to have to "let" a guy hold me down. I want to be able to fight with all my might and still not be able to move if I wanted to.

But that might be a result of my size. I can imagine it's probably pretty easy for petite women to be physically dominated by their partners. I'm the size of the average man so it's rare for me to have a partner who can actually physically dominate me.

[Sparrow]

Originally Posted by Mermaid

But I guess it wouldn't turn me on as much if I had to pretend to be weak/dumb/naive/a child in order to be dominated.

i like the baiting part of the game. the bottom's always felt like a power position to me.

[Sparrow]

if i was unclear, i'm not saying be a pillow princess. it's more being prey as if being devoured is its one instinct. stoking your hunter's senses. stripping his humanity; turning him feral.

[memecherry]

I've met a few guys I dated for a while on dating apps -- but that was years ago when match was cool... Most of my long term relationships were met in person.

I've tried the app dating in the last year, but the messages I get do not inspire me to go on any dates, I would rather work on my art or go out & network for my art.

One of these days when I'm ready to get serious about dating again I'll need the KATG edit of my profile