2891: Vertical Smile w/ Kerry Coddett

[Michael's Servant]

Love, nudes, and genitalia terms; dating and ethnicity; threesomes and committed relationships; women and hairstyle changes; dating apps; KATG Polls; a sexbot can claim it has a headache; Westworld season 2 definitely not explained; Richard Harrison of Pawn Stars died

Guest:
Kerry Coddett



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[thirteen]

Really enjoyed Kerry!

I could see how dating within your own culture or race would be easier in a lot of situations, if you're embracing that culture and not rebelling against it. I have gone back and forth about that in the past. One issue I kept encountering: Men who were rebelling against their culture (their parent's and my parent's culture) and were way too extreme about it. To the point that they started to hate a whole group of people and there were little signs each day that would make me uncomfortable. I suppose they are still finding themselves, but that's just not for me. I need someone who is comfortable with the good parts of where they came from, and who they are now.

The "building a legacy" part was really interesting.

When you guys were talking about dick pics, I thought about how that entirely depends on the type of person you are, who you allowed into your messages and into your life, and even what city and groups of people you hang out with. I don't mind dick pics depending on the situation and how thirsty I am Men and women who constantly ask me to show them pics before we talk about anything are cut out pretty quickly.

[joslingeneva]

I loved this episode! It's the first time I've heard Chemda sound creepy and Keith sound smitten AF. I don't know what Kerry did to ya'll.

For the record I prefer the term pussy. I think some people are scared of the word cause of the sexual tension it causes. It's a hot word.

Also I've been celibate for the past year (I was dating but every man I thought about having sex with would say something dumb to turn me off) so I don't think its crazy that Chemda wants to as well. Sometimes it's good to take a break and see who you are in the moment. Now that I am back out there, I can see with clearer eyes some of my own bullshit and choose to engage with people in a better way.

Oh and the race thing. I date whoever, but it does get exhausting explaining race to people. I have a motto, you can't be a fuck boi AND clueless about race. Meaning if I am dating a guy who isn't black he better be evolved about patriarchy and women if he doesn't have a good race analysis.

As for culture I grew up in Alaska so my culture growing up was a hodge podge of native, white, black, filipino, ect similar to folks who grow up in Hawaii, so alot of the times I seem foreign to just about everyone who didn't grow up black in Alaska.

[Beth Yaz-Pistachio]

"...a little snooch? ...hm." --Chemda

[joslingeneva]

Originally Posted by Beth Yaz-Pistachio

"...a little snooch? ...hm." --Chemda

a poon pic maybe?

[SpareBen]

Originally Posted by Apia

I sometimes enjoy pretty dick pics and I find some of them hot. And I didn't use to. Its an acquired taste it seems.

Indeed it is, says the guy who'd been straight-married for 17 years before seeking out dick pics.

[SpareBen]

relevant interesting news item: "ripped a piece of trim..."

[astrokahn]

Me and my boo want a girlfriend too. We’lol have our people call your people, Kerry.

[CherryLavender]

Chemda,

You just described the perfect utopia of polyamory with your three pseudo buddies you're dating.

And I unequivocally believe that you will be celibate for a year. You are a woman of your word and from what I've heard on the show, you are not wanting anything to muddy your waters right now.

Alicia and I are sorry you are going through this and send our love.

[Beth Yaz-Pistachio]

Originally Posted by CherryLavender

Chemda,

You just described the perfect utopia of polyamory with your three pseudo buddies you're dating.

Yep. Various bits and pieces here were describing polyamory relationships.

(Me: "Hm, do you think we should tell them?")

(I'm poly, have been for 12 years, hadn't felt the need to mention it until right now because HAHAHAAAA. Wheeeeeeeee!)