Need vagina advice

[GaryStoleXmas]

I understand some of you forum members have them, so ...
I need advice on a vagina.
Started dating a new girl that I really like. Tonight was our second, "night in" alone together and after making out some I asked her if she wanted to take it to the other room.
That's when she shared a little info. She says intercourse is too painful, but we can do other things.
Fine, so off to the bedroom. We get things going, and I experimented a little. 1 or 2 fingers was fine, and she was enjoying it, but as soon as I got a little too deep (almost 2nd knuckle) that experiment would be called to a halt for a little bit.

The next issue I had was the blowjob. Painful. Lots of teeth. I wasn't positioned where I could easily see, but I swear to god it felt like she was doing "spirit fingers" (like from Bring it On) on the shaft.
So that side wasn't working for me either.

I asked her if she had mentioned the problem to the gyno. She says in her experience doctors don't care about those problems.
She's only been with a couple other guys sexually, so not a whole lot of experience either.

So I don't know. Ladies, anything similar? Advice?

I like her a lot, and I'll try to work with her, but it's gonna be tough.



Also is it bad that almost the whole time I had the joke in my head "have you ever played this game called 'just the tip'"?

[marina]

I never had that problem, but I know that my BFF from high school had a similar one, although I don't know if she still does. I do know that I masturbate with fingers inside my vagina and she masturbates using only clitoral stimulation and no insertion. So, when the time came to add a partner to the mix, it was pretty bad for her-I'd even say gory.

A lot of doctors are too swamped to care about anything, but some do. It's also difficult to tell a stranger about sexual issues. I know when I had an ovarian cyst that caused me to have to lay in the fetal position after sex, rocking with pain, I didn't go until it got so bad I wouldn't cum. Then the only thing that drove me to the doctor was horniness.

I'm not experienced with a lot of different guys, pretty much all my experience is with Dr. BF, since we've been together for so long, but I know that when we first got together I wanted to have sex right away because he was such a cool guy, it made sense to me that we should fuck. He held off though, and I think it's a good thing because by the time we were fucking, we were good enough friends that we could talk to each other honestly, even about sex.

I know that I've given him some awful blow jobs because he wasn't afraid to tell me, and we talked about what works, what doesn't, and that's how it got better.

A lot of times, a woman's vaginal muscles will relax after she's had her first orgasm. Did you try going down on her? I bet after she's cum a time or two, her vagina will be much more flexible. There are more than one ways to skin a cat...um, you know what I mean.

Ask her what she's into, how she masturbates, tell her what you like about her technique, tell her things that like in terms of blow jobs. Maybe her last guy loved the teeth. If you don't communicate with her, she'll probably just keep going blind.

[TeddyPicker]

A lot of the time it's nerves. When a girl has preconceptions about sex being painful/uncomfortable it'll often be the only thing she will expect sex to be. I definitely agree with Marina to try something like going down on her first, much more relaxed and (if you're anygood :P) contented.

I have polycystic ovaries and so it took me a while as well to get comfortable with sex, but I didn't consult a doctor, so I think it really depends on how painful it is and if she thinks she can deal with it.

[Lanfear]

I am not sure but do you think this pain might be a way for her to prevent actual intercourse by giving a medical reason instead of having to talk about wanting to wait for religion or just because she wants to get to know you better first or is scared about getting pregnant or had a very bad experience her first time or anything else she does not want you to know????

Other than that I agree with Marina and Teddy the more relaxed she will be if you take your time and try and make her cum first the easier it should be for her to enjoy it.

I have a great gyno so I would definitely go talk to him about it but it sounds like she does not want to do that.

[Mikey]

waist of time

dump her d00d

[Brend_duh]

She should definatly find a doctor that will find the time to discuss her issue with her.. because pain from sex isnt normal and is usually a sign of a medical problem such as cysts etc.

[roxymodest]

i concur with what all the women of this thread said and that is to get her relaxed. maybe it's a thing with trust or you guys just need to get to know each other more so you guys can talk about it...

last i heard wine will help you with that with her opening up anyway...

[fatchris]

Everyone is missing the real advice, just put it in her ass !!
If it hurts to pu it in her snatch then put it in the pooper and avoid the whole ordeal!! And chances are once she takes a couple pumps from that she'll beg for the puss .

[iheartnihilism]

Originally Posted by Mikey

waist of time

dump her d00d

I second that motion.
"a little too deep" is the second knuckle!? what is that, 2 inches?

[shantastic]

Originally Posted by iheartnihilism

I second that motion.
"a little too deep" is the second knuckle!? what is that, 2 inches?

yes. there are other, un-broken snatches in the sea.