Only children

campy · 02-13-2011, 03:52 PM

We are contemplating whether we should have another baby...my thinking is we should give our kid a sibling. Those of you without siblings....did you resent your parents for not giving you a brother or sister? Did you feel like you missed out?? Where you happy enough?

picard102 · 02-13-2011, 03:56 PM

if you only have one child you are a bad parent.

Rawn · 02-13-2011, 05:17 PM

I'm not an only child but just putting in my two cents:

I have a brother and sister, and while my brother and I fought almost all the time while growing up, I'm very grateful to my parents for giving me not one, but two siblings. I think it would have been strange to be an only child.

Rhian · 02-13-2011, 05:20 PM

I'm an only child, and I do wonder what it would be like to have a sibling, but I'm close with my cousins, and we do look alike.

I never felt resentment, but I also wasn't spoiled and I provided for myself quite early. I was independent young and I am proud of myself for doing what I did.

There is pressure about thinking if I can care for my mom - (my father is remarried and lives in another country) but mom and I are super close.

DWarrior · 02-13-2011, 07:02 PM

As the older sibling, I'd constantly not be allowed to do shit because "my brother would want to do it too". Plus whenever shit happened, I was responsible for it.

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Originally Posted by picard102

if you only have one child you are a bad parent.

What if the first blows out your uterus?

picard102 · 02-13-2011, 07:07 PM

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Originally Posted by DWarrior

What if the first blows out your uterus?

Lame excuse.

bithead · 02-13-2011, 08:10 PM

Interesting that you'd bring this up...

My eldest daughter (age 11) was home alone with us today, while her younger sister (age 9) was out with their Grandmother. My eldest daughter made the observation that "this is what every day would be like if [sister's name] hadn't been born. I would miss her."

While she obviously wouldn't miss her (since she wouldn't have even known her), it did say to us that we made the right decision to have a second child.

It isn't always the case in all families, but our daughters really are best friends. They spend countless hours playing together.

alannanana · 02-13-2011, 08:17 PM

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Originally Posted by bithead

My eldest daughter made the observation that "this is what every day would be like if [sister's name] hadn't been born. I would miss her."

Aw! So cute. Those two are very lucky to have each other

BrianAlt · 02-13-2011, 08:22 PM

We had a second child because we didn't want my daughter to be an only child. My son is a great kid, very laid back. My daughter wishes she was an only child every day. We, my wife and I, do not.

crecentroll · 02-13-2011, 08:34 PM

Great thread topic...we are having the same debate in my house and the feedback is welcomed.

View Poll Results: I was an only child and I
Wished I had a brother or sister	7	29.17%
Resented my parents for not giving me a brother or sister.	0	0%
Enjoyed the single child life	8	33.33%
Would have been nice to have a sibling but I was fine just as I was	9	37.50%
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02-13-2011, 03:52 PM	#1 (permalink)
campy Senior Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Canada Posts: 11,868	Only children We are contemplating whether we should have another baby...my thinking is we should give our kid a sibling. Those of you without siblings....did you resent your parents for not giving you a brother or sister? Did you feel like you missed out?? Where you happy enough?
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picard102 Senior Member Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Toronto, Ontario Posts: 2,949	if you only have one child you are a bad parent.
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Rawn Member Join Date: May 2010 Location: Melbourne, Australia Posts: 74	I'm not an only child but just putting in my two cents: I have a brother and sister, and while my brother and I fought almost all the time while growing up, I'm very grateful to my parents for giving me not one, but two siblings. I think it would have been strange to be an only child.
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Rhian Senior Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: San Diego Posts: 4,102	I'm an only child, and I do wonder what it would be like to have a sibling, but I'm close with my cousins, and we do look alike. I never felt resentment, but I also wasn't spoiled and I provided for myself quite early. I was independent young and I am proud of myself for doing what I did. There is pressure about thinking if I can care for my mom - (my father is remarried and lives in another country) but mom and I are super close.
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bithead Senior Member Join Date: May 2007 Location: Georgetown, Ontario, CANADA Posts: 1,328	Interesting that you'd bring this up... My eldest daughter (age 11) was home alone with us today, while her younger sister (age 9) was out with their Grandmother. My eldest daughter made the observation that "this is what every day would be like if [sister's name] hadn't been born. I would miss her." While she obviously wouldn't miss her (since she wouldn't have even known her), it did say to us that we made the right decision to have a second child. It isn't always the case in all families, but our daughters really are best friends. They spend countless hours playing together. __________________ Rhian: "If I wore jeans the right way I'd get off." Twitter: https://twitter.com/mr_bithead
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BrianAlt Senior Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Northern NJ Posts: 4,690	We had a second child because we didn't want my daughter to be an only child. My son is a great kid, very laid back. My daughter wishes she was an only child every day. We, my wife and I, do not.
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crecentroll Senior Member Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Charlotte, NC Posts: 180	Great thread topic...we are having the same debate in my house and the feedback is welcomed.
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