Wife face piercing

[alannanana]

Originally Posted by paecontrol

Wow - you are good. It is a string of incidents...

I knew it. I know my gender, we're all crazy bitches.

It's just easy to be upset with the piercing because it pretty much embodies everything that you two disagree over. It's like a visual reminder of her consistently going against what you want-- and if you're going to constantly see it, you'll constantly be pissed off. That's just not healthy.

But again, I don't know her. Maybe like me, she's wanted her piercing forever. Whatever the reason, be the bigger person and talk to her about it. Get to the bottom of this issue

[paecontrol]

Originally Posted by blackpussy

I've had this issue in my own marriage and I would just say this. Fuck you in thinking that your opinion of what she does to her own body is more important to HER opinion of what she does to HER own body. So what! you don't like it! Get over it!!! It's her body, did you fall in love with her or her perfect face? If it was the latter, you are a shallow fuck and she probably did it as a fuck you to show you that you do not control her. Get over yourself, I'm guessing you're lucky to have her!

Wow, why so hostile? It isn't like I'm getting mad at her over this or even talking to her about it yet. I don't know what I am going to say, I haven't seen it yet - I am just freaked out about it I guess...

What was the issue in your marriage and how did you resolve it?

[blackpussy]

Originally Posted by paecontrol

Wow, why so hostile? It isn't like I'm getting mad at her over this or even talking to her about it yet. I don't know what I am going to say, I haven't seen it yet - I am just freaked out about it I guess...

What was the issue in your marriage and how did you resolve it?

It sure sounds like your mad over it... plus you just said you didn't even know if you can look at her. Maybe you should talk to her about it first before you come bitching about it here, just sayin

[brianward81]

Originally Posted by paecontrol

i don't know if I will even be able to look her in the face when she gets back. She works at a school (off in the summer) so spent the last 4 weeks back home.

How can you go with your life when she has a small ring on her eyebrow. Ehh. I can't even!

Divorce.

Done - you're welcome! Is it the piercing that is affecting you so much or is it actually lots of other things and the piercing is making it easier for you whinge?

[alannanana]

In my opinion, I think she's really pretty and could pull off any sort of facial piercing. Just saying.

[paecontrol]

Originally Posted by alannanana

It's just easy to be upset with the piercing because it pretty much embodies everything that you two disagree over. It's like a visual reminder of her consistently going against what you want-- and if you're going to constantly see it, you'll constantly be pissed off. That's just not healthy.

But again, I don't know her. Maybe like me, she's wanted her piercing forever. Whatever the reason, be the bigger person and talk to her about it. Get to the bottom of this issue

I think it is actually both. She hates where we live and wants to move back home. She has been hanging around with old friends from H.S. that are I guess culturally different from the friends that we have here. She has hung out with this guy that she knows that I would have an issue with (she cheated on me with one of them like 8 years ago), but didn't tell me about it - I found out elsewhere. All that and she is letting our 7 year old daughter spend the night with her sister who has a physically abusive boyfriend.

None of this would be that bad, but she keeps this shit from me, knowing that I have issues trusting her when she is back home from 8 years ago I guess. She's hanging out with this guy she banged but I guess he is happy with a girlfriend and baby or whatever... I don't know - it is all just very, very Jerry Springer.

[paecontrol]

Originally Posted by blackpussy

It sure sounds like your mad over it... plus you just said you didn't even know if you can look at her. Maybe you should talk to her about it first before you come bitching about it here, just sayin

Oh, to be sure I am most certainly mad. I meant that I wasn't getting mad at her or anything. What could she possibly say that would make me less mad?

maybe you should take a nap grouchy...

[paecontrol]

Originally Posted by blackpussy

It sure sounds like your mad over it... plus you just said you didn't even know if you can look at her. Maybe you should talk to her about it first before you come bitching about it here, just sayin

and the not looking at her was tongue in cheek... I'll just be staring at her eyebrow the whole time.

[blackpussy]

Originally Posted by paecontrol

I think it is actually both. She hates where we live and wants to move back home. She has been hanging around with old friends from H.S. that are I guess culturally different from the friends that we have here. She has hung out with this guy that she knows that I would have an issue with (she cheated on me with one of them like 8 years ago), but didn't tell me about it - I found out elsewhere. All that and she is letting our 7 year old daughter spend the night with her sister who has a physically abusive boyfriend.

None of this would be that bad, but she keeps this shit from me, knowing that I have issues trusting her when she is back home from 8 years ago I guess. She's hanging out with this guy she banged but I guess he is happy with a girlfriend and baby or whatever... I don't know - it is all just very, very Jerry Springer.

I'm sorry, you lost me at "she is letting OUR 7 yr old daughter spend the night with her sister and her physically abusive boyfriend" and you're worried about her piercing? Get your priorities in order, please! For your daughter's sake

[Draconis]

Well basically, if she had talked to you about it, it sounds like you still wouldn't have been ok with it, and if she WANTED to do it, she should be able to do it, regardless of whether you like it or not.

There's something to be said about respecting what you do and don't like, especially as you're married, but perhaps, as you've said this is just one thing in a string of incidents, she's simply being rebellious.

My advice: Get over it. If she's only doing it as a thrill, it'll be gone soon enough. If it's there to stay, then enjoy your wife's beautiful face, and accept that this piece of jewelery, however unwelcome by yourself, is now a part of it.