13: Marriage: Men

[BrianAlt]

Loved the episode. One thing that would be interesting is talking to someone married 20-25 years and someone married 40+.

I got married at 25, didn't have kids till 29 and that made a big difference. The major pressures of marriage didn't start till then. We both had good jobs and that makes a huge difference.

We've now been married 20 years (yes, I am offering myself to be interviewed ) and there have been plenty of ups and downs, but I'm really happy being married and with the person I chose as my, "significant other."

If you can get past the high single digits (7-10 years), I think you start seeing those intangible benefits that you often hear about marriage. Just before 10 it becomes, hmmm am I really only going to have sex with this person?

And there are NO financial benefit to marriage. You pay more taxes, not less.

Perhaps the perceived credit risk is a plus, but good credit is good credit.

[Bucho]

Amazing episode. I wish you could get Pat's ex wives for a future one.

[skizzbot]

This episode was fantastic. I was especially surprised by Pat's profound insight into marriage and relationships.

[andyoureuglytoo]

Though the whole universe didn't shift when TJ and I got married. But I think we both felt a sense of relief that "this is it, we can relax" - meaning that we're completely committed now.

[bw81]

Loved the episode, Pat was very insightful.

I proposed to my girlfriend after we'd been together for 4 years. There was no pressure from her, none of my friends or family had pushed the idea... I just wanted to do it. It felt like the next step and had no reservations about it. We'd been living together after our first year together, had moved to a country town for her work for a couple years, etc... so we were already playing the married game as it was.

When we finally did get married I felt very proud of our relationship and being able to shove it in peoples faces for a night. Kind of like a, "This is what a good partnership can be like, now down that beer and dance!" kind of attitude. But in terms of our living situation; we'd moved into our own home that we had built a year prior, had shared bank accounts and all that other stuff that might be new for some newlyweds. So it was business as usual, just with a bit more strut.