1643: Let's Hear It for the Boy

[Daniel]

This episode was really a microcosms of the way most women seem to react to this issue, and an example of why this will never go away.

When you compare an hormonal shock with everyday grumpiness (which happens to both sexes), you're basically refusing to face the fact that there is NO equivalent in a man for the period. So, like Keith said, it's obviously more important to women to be on the right than to admit that there is this ONE thing that men are not to blame for.

Hate to generalize, but women as a whole need to take some responsibility for this.

[Fourbid]

Somehow on the show the conversation twisted. The poll wasn't about how every time women get angry men assume it's their period. It's about how men do have to put up with it when it happens.

And if women don't want men to assume it's their period then stop blaming when you're being a fucking dickhead on your period constantly.

*700 text messages about how I'm the worst person on the planet*

"What the fuck was up with that shit?"

"Oh I'm sorry I was on my period."

Well fuck me.

[Blitzgal]

Originally Posted by Strawdog

I tend to grab her by the shoulders, turn her square on and tell her to look me in the eyes. I then demand to know what the issue is.
She can't resist this because she want's you to confront and take charge. Listen to her, repeat the issue back to her to make sure you're clear then take a second, pause and think it over. The resolution is usually very simple and women generally allow emotion to cloud their judgement.

You realize you're a bully, right?

[Strawdog]

Originally Posted by Blitzgal

You realize you're a bully, right?

Sure, in the context of confronting a stranger on the street but I'm in a loving relationship so I'm not giving her a dead arm, yelling at her and calling her an idiot. I approach from the angle of a partner and lover, I'm not abusive in the least.

Just because you can't imagine a man taking control without loosing his cool doesn't mean you should assume everyone rolls like your ex did.

[Sparrow]

Originally Posted by Strawdog

Isn't the root of the problem that you're having arguements in the first place. Surely to reach to point where one or both of you have reached a peak of emotion that causes you to snap means you haven't dealt with the issue properly before menstruation even comes into it.

Personally I take control of my relationship and don't allow an issue to escalate.

I tend to grab her by the shoulders, turn her square on and tell her to look me in the eyes. I then demand to know what the issue is.

She can't resist this because she want's you to confront and take charge.

My girl has sometimes complains that I come off as cold, sometimes distant, but in these situations I am dominant not except her behaving like a child.

To do anything other than dominate is to admit defeat and encourage them and they will hate you for supplicating to their emotional pleas.

Then you fuck them.

oh. hi. i believe i was married to you. I absolutely get where you're coming from and it takes a certain kind of woman to be with, understand, and withstand someone who deals with conflict and emotions the way you do. It doesn't make sense to your brain, being lifted up and out of control of ones faculties. My guess is, it doesn't happen to you often. There is nothing wrong with that. Folks are folks. Grabbing someone by the shoulders, however, and demanding in their face isn't loving. It's rude and a violation of their physical person. Scale it back.

and for the record, being open with ones emotion does not make one a child. Grown-ups feel. Some of us express. It's nature not weakness. Bless your heart, bebe.

[Blitzgal]

Originally Posted by Strawdog

Just because you can't imagine a man taking control without loosing his cool doesn't mean you should assume everyone rolls like your ex did.

None of my boyfriends have ever done this with me. I think if they did try the macho posturing, "I'm a big man gonna solve all your problems little lady" thing (especially by grabbing me by the shoulders while clearly thinking they're John Wayne or Clint Eastwood), I would just laugh in their faces. But I can spot MRA dudes like you from miles away, and you are not dating material for me personally.

People aren't vending machines. You push a sequence of buttons with one person and get one result, but don't think that you can push the same sequence of buttons with another person and get that same result.

Also, what Sparrow said.

[Lanfear]

Originally Posted by Strawdog

Isn't the root of the problem that you're having arguements in the first place. Surely to reach to point where one or both of you have reached a peak of emotion that causes you to snap means you haven't dealt with the issue properly before menstruation even comes into it.

Personally I take control of my relationship and don't allow an issue to escalate. Multiple times my girlfriend has become upset over an issue but I can read her well enough that just a second or two more silence than there should be, a kiss being slightly too chaste, I confront, analyse and solve.

Too many men allow a woman to say, "No, it's nothing" then back away and figure they've done all they can. This does nothing but promote the stereotype of men being bumbling, emotionally-retarded idiots.
I tend to grab her by the shoulders, turn her square on and tell her to look me in the eyes. I then demand to know what the issue is.
She can't resist this because she want's you to confront and take charge. Listen to her, repeat the issue back to her to make sure you're clear then take a second, pause and think it over. The resolution is usually very simple and women generally allow emotion to cloud their judgement.

Now, Keith has mentioned in the past that attempting to do this just illicits a worse response with Chemda claiming that what she actually needed was a moment for you to both just wallow in despair rather than instantly try to solve it. I believe the true problem was how Keith put any solution to her. Correct me if I'm wrong but whenever they spoke of these times it seemed that Keith spoke as if panicking, exasperated. He came to Chemda submissive to her childish behaviour in the face of a problem.

My girl has sometimes complains that I come off as cold, sometimes distant, but in these situations I am dominant and will not except her behaving like a child. Once a month her behaviour may be amplified but I won't let her panicky, possibly abusive behaviour dictate what happens.

No matter how much women will deny it, their emotional behaviour is that of a petulant child and must be treated as such. To do anything other than dominate is to admit defeat and encourage them and they will hate you for supplicating to their emotional pleas.
If an arguement breaks out you're already losing, save face,withdraw from the situatio telling her you'll talk when she's more reasonable. She'll call you an asshole, say you don't respect her, maybe even call you a pussy but you remain stoic as you would with a child and, as Keith said, they'll come crawling back in a few hours to apologize for their behaviour.

Then you fuck them like Jack Bauer trying to beat a confession out of their cervix.

Well this reads like a dog obedience training manual - you really must have relationships with a very special kind of woman that tolerates this kind of behaviour

[Dean from Australia]

To be clear, I only asked why because I just kinda wondered, how much content is too much content? I would and have donated/subscribed for several years now based on the core show alone. When What's My Name went live and proved its chops I was like 'way cool!' When My Name Is Keith kicked off, I still bought into it. But Internment and Danny's show...ahh...I'll probably pass. It's just a personal preference. Don't ever worry about my love and commitment to the show though. If Chemda and Keith read the phone book - I'd still listen.

Oh and by the way - I'm not self published.

Central Avenue Publishing

[Junkenstein]

yeah, sorry strawperson but if you really act that way (and im nto convinced you do) she could get tired of your ass quickly, and call the cops on you out of a random bruise she has.

and then you would be doiminant with your cell mate named Bubba.

[sex_n_diamonds]

Originally Posted by Strawdog

No matter how much women will deny it, their emotional behaviour is that of a petulant child and must be treated as such. To do anything other than dominate is to admit defeat and encourage them and they will hate you for supplicating to their emotional pleas.

If an arguement breaks out you're already losing, save face,withdraw from the situatio telling her you'll talk when she's more reasonable. She'll call you an asshole, say you don't respect her, maybe even call you a pussy but you remain stoic as you would with a child and, as Keith said, they'll come crawling back in a few hours to apologize for their behaviour.

Then you fuck them like Jack Bauer trying to beat a confession out of their cervix.

I HATE men like you. If I wasn't born gay, I'd blame men like you for making me gay.

My best friend is the stoic, dominant type not just in normal day to day life, but does the entire BDSM thing as well. Never once, even when he was calling his lovers whores, and sluts and cum-hungry bitches (all in the bedroom, of course) did he come close to belittling women the way you just did.