2575: Cheetos, Doritos, Mojitos, Burritos

[memecherry]

I will speak from personal experience.

All the times I have been sexually assaulted or violated it was by somebody I knew:

My older cousin when I was 13.

A friend who drugged me & forced himself on me when I blacked out, I was 17.

A lover a few years ago who held me down & forced himself on me after we had been dating for months.

Sure wish I would have could have taken my vagina off to stop these assaults from happening...

[Lanfear]

Originally Posted by jbliss

I heard the guest saying just this and Chemda's retort was, "there's nothing you can do." That's adsurd.

We can have our cake and eat it too. All of the following can be true:

- Males, stop raping.
- Females, we recommend the following base-level stuff to help mitigate risk.
- Females, we're not victim-blaming.

Awesome - what base level stuff do I need to do please?

[jbliss]

Originally Posted by The Girl

Yes, let's ask someone who just got robbed while they were looking for an address why they were making themselves so vulnerable. Sometimes you need to look up "like a tourist" to find an address. Sometimes you trust a guy who turns out to be a shit.

Maybe we don't focus on what the victim could have done different to not get raped. Because what we're asking is "did you really get raped or are you just negligent." That's very strange.

What are you going to tell your daughter BEFORE she's assaulted? Anything? No tips/tricks she should be aware of to help mitigate her risk? No wisdom? Just, "hopefully, you won't be assaulted but you probably will?"

That's crazy. I propose this one, at the very least: when meeting a new guy from such-and-such dating app, meet at a coffee shop at noon. Is that good advice? Is that not a good piece of risk-mitigation to teach?

[memecherry]

Originally Posted by Lanfear

Awesome - what base level stuff do I need to do please?

Chastity belt with spikes on your vagina & mouth, duh!

[Lanfear]

Originally Posted by jbliss

What are you going to tell your daughter BEFORE she's assaulted? Anything? No tips/tricks she should be aware of to help mitigate her risk? No wisdom? Just, "hopefully, you won't be assaulted but you probably will?"

That's crazy. I propose this one, at the very least: when meeting a new guy from such-and-such dating app, meet at a coffee shop at noon. Is that good advice? Is that not a good piece of risk-mitigation to teach?

The woman in the case knew the guy according to the paper for a few days before she invited him in ... so what should she have done?

And don't tell me she was in more danger if he slept there than if she just let him visit

[Lanfear]

Originally Posted by memecherry

Chastity belt with spikes on your vagina & mouth, duh!

Duuuuhh also butt spikes

[memecherry]

Here is one thing we can do:

If a woman speaks up about these situations, maybe we don't shame them into a rabbit hole of what they should or could have done...

Maybe if we stop shaming victims, perpetrators won't feel as emboldened?

[memecherry]

Originally Posted by Lanfear

Duuuuhh also butt spikes

Ooooh can we also wear shoes with spikes? I think we just wear spike outfits, nobody will mess with us then?

[Lanfear]

I wasn't sexually assaulted yet ( but hey I'm under 40 there is still time)

I was robbed at gunpoint, in front of my own building which is in a generally safe, well lit, nice residential area.

So what did I do wrong? Dare to walk to my own door by myself around midnight while being female?

[Lanfear]

Originally Posted by memecherry

Ooooh can we also wear shoes with spikes? I think we just wear spike outfits, nobody will mess with us then?

I'm pretty tall already but I really want these shoes