2879: In the Spirits w/ Julian McCullough

[Mermaid]

Originally Posted by Keith

Sometimes the pain from a relationship is too much that you're not ready to catch feelings or find happiness.

Right?

OR, like everyone else, us non-commitment daters couldn't help but catch feelings if we were head-over-heels with somebody or we should be checked into a mental hospital for being fuckin' psychotic.

I don't think you can helplessly fall head over heels for someone unless you are emotionally open to doing so.

If you are still closed off due to recent emotional trauma then I don't see that happening.

[Keith]

Okay.

[jcro21]

I broke up with a girl in the Jardin du Luxembourg in Paris for all the reasons mentioned on the show (public place, no waiting on food/drink, easy exit). It went about as well as it could've, but when it was almost done she did say it was fucked up of me to do this in her favorite park.

Next time I'd go with a slightly shitty park, to reinforce the idea that nothing romantic will be happening.

[thirteen]

Originally Posted by Enunciated Piffle

There’s no ‘polyamorous’ setting.

Not sure about the rest of your post(s) (you seem a little upset) but I do agree that polyamorous people should put that info in their profile. Or tell the person they match with as soon as you both start talking on the app, not in person. Stop wasting our time.

[Sparrow]

all this sass and spice. yo, people can't anticipate everyone's deal breakers. i'm sure you don't have a copy/paste message for all random interested parties delineating what might be wasting their time *eye roll*. i'm a proponent of being hella up front, but it's not nice to police when people are comfortable revealing levels of personal information.

[Enunciated Piffle]

Hey Sparrow there’s a lot to this story. I don’t think I told it right/ and or/ yer missing my point.

I’m still cool with this person. There was an understanding that we were dating with an end goal of something serious. Possibly marriage. At no point was I given an indication that monogamous relationship wasn’t an end goal. Maybe. MAYBE she mentioned she was bi. I’ve dated bisexual women before. It’s never been a “well she’s gonna have a GF as well, cuz bi..”

IM NOT SHAMING or judging nor did I ‘punish’ this person for their polyamory. It was something only revealed at the end. It broke my heart. It still does. I wish I could go there. I can’t even hang with her because it’s too confusing.

You say don’t judge people for disclosing personal info. Well. That’s kinda what I’m doing here *eye roll* #hastag. Fml

[Enunciated Piffle]

Originally Posted by Sparrow

i'm a proponent of being hella up front, but it's not nice to police when people are comfortable revealing levels of personal information.

Agreed. I just wish this extended to people putting themselves out there on these forums.

[Sparrow]

cry dem tears. i did not forget you being /so/ angry and calling this woman a bitch.

[Enunciated Piffle]

I called her a dirty bitch. She’s my friend. I also said her vagina should be sued off.

Whatever. You just wanna tell me to fuck off. I get it.

[Keith]

Next time you tell people this story, include that the two of you talked about marrying each other before the polyamory surprise.