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Old 07-05-2018, 01:17 PM   #41 (permalink)
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Not sure if this is the right place for this, but that letter Keith read hit me hard. I was in a relationship for 11 years and told she didn't love me the past 8. We have a 6, 8, & 11 year old. Why did we continue if she didn't love me. I built my life around her and this family, and now I resent all of it. I have no friends to turn to and like Chemda said, suicide hotlines are useless, they just rephrase what you say to try to validate your feelings.

I have begun seeing a psychiatrist and therapist, it's not enough. Where do I go next?
That is harsh as fuck. I'm sorry you're going through that.

What's next is accepting that you don't know what's next. Taking time to figure out one item, one step at a time.

For me, it was going to group meetings. Your therapist might know a few to recommend or you can look for meetings that you connect with. Is it Al-anon? Is it a group for recently divorced people?

You can use this forum as a group meeting.

Don't worry alone. It might seem like no one understands but we do. And we're here for you.

Give yourself some credit, you already reached out. You are seeing a therapist and also came here to find some friends and/or let out some emotion.

This is a hard time. Try to be gentle on yourself.
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Old 07-05-2018, 01:31 PM   #42 (permalink)
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That is harsh as fuck. I'm sorry you're going through that.

What's next is accepting that you don't know what's next. Taking time to figure out one item, one step at a time.

For me, it was going to group meetings. Your therapist might know a few to recommend or you can look for meetings that you connect with. Is it Al-anon? Is it a group for recently divorced people?

You can use this forum as a group meeting.

Don't worry alone. It might seem like no one understands but we do. And we're here for you.

Give yourself some credit, you already reached out. You are seeing a therapist and also came here to find some friends and/or let out some emotion.

This is a hard time. Try to be gentle on yourself.
I am a extremely private (shy) person, writing here is one of the hardest things I've done, I could never talk at a group meeting. So many say they are here for me, I don't see it, I am still home, alone. I am sorry, I know there is nothing more that you can do.
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Old 07-05-2018, 01:37 PM   #43 (permalink)
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oh hey! consider me in the circle. or however the seating arrangement is here at the KATG Center for Unfucking Yourself. i like circles.

anyway, if writing here was a super hard thing, you did it. awesome. keep on, bruh. this is the finest place i know to spill your guts; even and especially the ugly scary stuff. we all done it. y'all know all my damn dirty laundry. it feels good. 'cause we're all at home, too, with you.
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Old 07-05-2018, 01:55 PM   #44 (permalink)
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I am a extremely private (shy) person, writing here is one of the hardest things I've done, I could never talk at a group meeting. So many say they are here for me, I don't see it, I am still home, alone. I am sorry, I know there is nothing more that you can do.


Thatís the thing, youíll have to do uncomfortable things. And, likeSparrow said, youíre doing it.

You donít have to speak at group meetings. You can even speak just to say you donít know what to say.

If youíre at home alone and you donít want to be and there are people who said theyíll be there, take a chance and call one of those people?

If you take tiny chances every day, youíll feel more confident about doing things youíre uncomfortable with.

You can start a thread where you can tell us what uncomfortable thing you did for the day and how youíre feeling about.

We can join in and tell you what we did that felt funny.

It also helped me to look up podcasts and YouTube videos about anything I was feeling: how to deal with loneliness, what to do when you donít know what to do, what happens after heartache.

Again, youíre doing it. Here you are. Sharing what scares you. Great job!!


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Old 07-05-2018, 04:34 PM   #45 (permalink)
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Not sure if this is the right place for this, but that letter Keith read hit me hard. I was in a relationship for 11 years and told she didn't love me the past 8. We have a 6, 8, & 11 year old. Why did we continue if she didn't love me. I built my life around her and this family, and now I resent all of it. I have no friends to turn to and like Chemda said, suicide hotlines are useless, they just rephrase what you say to try to validate your feelings.

I have begun seeing a psychiatrist and therapist, it's not enough. Where do I go next?

You got three likes here with more on the way, so I assume you're all better now.
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