2974: Jewish Klansman w/ Alex Edelman

[The Girl]

Originally Posted by Gapeach

My opinion, you really, really miss your Mom (not so much your Dad). I wish you could accept her for who she is and she for who you are. One day, when she's gone, not talking to her may become one of your biggest regrets. She sounds very old school (era a 1950s Mom) in many ways and there is nothing wrong with that, that is who she is. If that is what makes her happy, then let her be happy as she should do the same for you. She is from a different generation, raised under a different culture. She doesn't understand you, who you are and why you do the things you do. I know that hurts. I'm sorry for that. You don't understand her either. I hope one day, you choose to be your hippy dippy self and reach out to her in love. You can't control what she says to you, but you can control your reaction to it. I think ignorning her, putting the ball in her court does nothing, but eat you from the inside out. She doesn't know what to do with that ball.



That's my opinion, but you know how the saying goes... they are like assholes, everyone has one and they all stink.

Which is the way that I haven’t tried yet? Being myself and accepting who she is? That seems to be what you’re saying. I did that. I did other things. “She’s old fashioned” is what kept me in a relationship with her for years that truly feels unhealthy.

It kinda feels the same way as saying “boys will be boys”. Well boys and moms have consequences. I don’t even mean punishment. I mean that people might respond to behavior by removing themselves instead of enduring pain for possible future regret.


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[FingerLakes]

Originally Posted by Gapeach

My opinion, you really, really miss your Mom (not so much your Dad). I wish you could accept her for who she is and she for who you are. One day, when she's gone, not talking to her may become one of your biggest regrets. She sounds very old school (era a 1950s Mom) in many ways and there is nothing wrong with that, that is who she is. If that is what makes her happy, then let her be happy as she should do the same for you. She is from a different generation, raised under a different culture. She doesn't understand you, who you are and why you do the things you do. I know that hurts. I'm sorry for that. You don't understand her either. I hope one day, you choose to be your hippy dippy self and reach out to her in love. You can't control what she says to you, but you can control your reaction to it. I think ignorning her, putting the ball in her court does nothing, but eat you from the inside out. She doesn't know what to do with that ball.

This is the dumbest shit I ever read on this forum.

I was gonna pick it apart, line by line, but honestly, it's not even worth it.

[AstoriaGirl]

My mom died recently after years of estrangement(actually they've both died this year. #fuck2018) . Do I miss her sometimes and wish the estrangement was unnecessary? Of course. Do I regret the decision to estranged myself? Absolutely not. It was the right decision for me and she was not receptive to what would need to change in order for me to be healthy while in contact with her. Plus she was an addict and blamed me for all her life problems. I miss who my mother was when I was young and she wasn't as unwell, not who she became by the time I was in highschool.

Chemda, you'll likely be fine whenever your parents pass. It'll feel shitty because death is shitty. But just like in the abortion debate, you're not going to wake up one day with crippling, unhealable regret.