Hey perverts! Will you take this poll or give it?

[madeyeshawn]

Originally Posted by The Living Dead

I think my favorite part about being submissive is getting tied up. I absolutely love bondage.

The reason my boyfriend is uncomfortable being extremely dominant is because he really thinks he will end up hurting me and my feelings.

SAFETY WORD... use them!

The safety word can be "Brumski" even.

[Junkenstein]

Originally Posted by The Living Dead

I think my favorite part about being submissive is getting tied up. I absolutely love bondage.

The reason my boyfriend is uncomfortable being extremely dominant is because he really thinks he will end up hurting me and my feelings.

Part of being a dom is knowing the sub well enough that there's no risk they will end up doing it in a messy way. Safety Words are there too, but the best thing is being into each other enough and knowing each other welll enough that you know your partner turnons, turnoffs and limits.

Also, if someone isnt into being a dom, they'll never kearn, it's just not for them.

I like bondage too, personally, but the one time i did it with the wrong person that wasnt into it and just forced herself in it, it was uncomfortable and awkward.

Talk about it a lot, baby step through it and if it just doesnt go, find something else. Patience, practice and chemistry.

[madeyeshawn]

The other option is pay/find a professional. 90% of them have a strict no sex rule, and you can inform them of your boundaries/specific interests.

Ever since I discovered my sub side (90% of the time, I'm a Dom) I have developed a fantasy that a femdom comes over and my gf and I will be subs together. Were a monogamous couple and I think this would technically still fit within our boundaries and maybe also educate us on some new techniques of domination.

Problem is the ones worth having are not affordable and we have never socialized or networked amongst the kink community in Chicago.

[Rufio]

Originally Posted by Junkenstein

I enjoy being both, but i admit that being a bottom is funnier for me.

huh?

[Junkenstein]

Originally Posted by Rufio

huh?

Funnier as in gives me more of a good time?

What?

[madeyeshawn]

Speaking of funny (and I know what you meant junkenstien) it reminds me of that moment during Dom/Sub play; when the sub laughs for some reason especially if it's an accidental break of character, it's the perfect/exhilarating moment for a Dom to make an example of his/her authority. That is easily one of my favorite moments during Dom-sub play.

First one to laugh gets the nipple clamps, LOL

[SSG]

I always like the female to start out as a top, just so I can take the control away from her. The exchange of power is the hottest part.

[picard102]

Originally Posted by madeyeshawn

Problem is the ones worth having are not affordable and we have never socialized or networked amongst the kink community in Chicago.

Get on Fetlife and look around for the smaller parties in your area.

[AronSora]

My school has a BDSM club, they are cool, I'm just too shy to go. Plus I feel creepy cause my fat. I'm a hardcore sub...I want some nasty things done to me*cough* pegging *cough*.

[picard102]

Originally Posted by AronSora

My school has a BDSM club

College right?