I have a date!

[ssgtballard]

Originally Posted by Sparrow

ihateyouihateyouihateyouihateyoudie.

I love you

[doctorsleep]

Originally Posted by DaveNJ

Join groups where you will meet people. Go out and talk to people. Speak honestly about your interests. Until you're comfortable in your own skin you won't be able to find people who share those interests, because you won't be comfortable with the fact that those are your interests. It's up to you to work on you first, and make that appealing to others.

My interests kind of screwed me up growing up, I was sick of being a fucking nerd so I got rid of all that stuff. I don't really have any interests that lend themselves to meeting girls. I'm trying to find them but its harr-eeddd. Seriously though, Now that school has started for real again i'm going to try to find somethings to get myself out there. I have a really light schedule this term, 4 classes, no night stuff, Fridays open, so I'm going to be able to put myself in some organizations.

People always say dive into your interests to meet awesome women, what interests can I look into where I will meet girls? Because Ill try anything (But it can't be something only girls are into because then they can see right though why I'm there and that ruins me and I'm forced to get out of there before I vomit out of shame and embarrassment)

Originally Posted by DaveNJ

Your other issue is this thing about talking to girls, and then hearing they have a boyfriend and zoning out. That means you don't want any relationship with women beyond a sexual one, and that's a problem. Why not talk to women and become friends with them? They're people, too.

I know thats wrong to do and selfish, but I think its because of the few female friends I have made in my life have all but flat out refused to set me up with somebody. Im tired of awkwardly asking "do you know any girls desperate enough to go out with me" so I cant make the link in my head that goes from "Female freind -> Introduces you too -> Potential Girlfriend" and even at that point it feels like I'm using people which doesn't feel right.

But what do I know? I currently only have 2 close female friends.

One goes to school in Durham and moved in with her boyfriend so shes never around town anymore (but we keep in touch and always visit when she comes home)

The other is the bi girl who I really liked in highschool, then really hated for a long time, then because of this forum reconnected and patched things up. She is dealing with a really REALLY bad break up right now so I don't want to put any of my bullshit on her real adult problems and issues and I'm just trying to support her and be there for her as a friend. For a while I felt like I had wanted something with her again (only physically though, something Ive never felt about a girl before) but seeing everything shes been going though has made me come to respect her more and see her as a real person today and not just the image of that girl who "ruined my life" in HS.

...that and the only girls she ever brings over to hang out with when everyone gets together are always lesbian/bi/or come with their boyfriends.

[DWarrior]

furries, cosplay

[FletchLives]

I keep thinking of advice to give from what I do, but then I realize it all would seem creepy if the wrong person is doing it.

[dEadERest]

the wrong person would be doing it

[DaveNJ]

Originally Posted by doctorsleep

My interests kind of screwed me up growing up, I was sick of being a fucking nerd so I got rid of all that stuff. I don't really have any interests that lend themselves to meeting girls. I'm trying to find them but its harr-eeddd. Seriously though, Now that school has started for real again i'm going to try to find somethings to get myself out there. I have a really light schedule this term, 4 classes, no night stuff, Fridays open, so I'm going to be able to put myself in some organizations.

People always say dive into your interests to meet awesome women, what interests can I look into where I will meet girls? Because Ill try anything (But it can't be something only girls are into because then they can see right though why I'm there and that ruins me and I'm forced to get out of there before I vomit out of shame and embarrassment)



I know thats wrong to do and selfish, but I think its because of the few female friends I have made in my life have all but flat out refused to set me up with somebody. Im tired of awkwardly asking "do you know any girls desperate enough to go out with me" so I cant make the link in my head that goes from "Female freind -> Introduces you too -> Potential Girlfriend" and even at that point it feels like I'm using people which doesn't feel right.

But what do I know? I currently only have 2 close female friends.

One goes to school in Durham and moved in with her boyfriend so shes never around town anymore (but we keep in touch and always visit when she comes home)

The other is the bi girl who I really liked in highschool, then really hated for a long time, then because of this forum reconnected and patched things up. She is dealing with a really REALLY bad break up right now so I don't want to put any of my bullshit on her real adult problems and issues and I'm just trying to support her and be there for her as a friend. For a while I felt like I had wanted something with her again (only physically though, something Ive never felt about a girl before) but seeing everything shes been going though has made me come to respect her more and see her as a real person today and not just the image of that girl who "ruined my life" in HS.

...that and the only girls she ever brings over to hang out with when everyone gets together are always lesbian/bi/or come with their boyfriends.

You clearly don't get it.

You're asking what interests you should have in order to meet girls. That's insane. Your interests should be your interests. That's why you're reeking of desperation: you're trying to find a scam instead of actually enjoying life. Your interests need to be YOUR interests. That you treat it like a way to meet chicks, instead of the end in and of itself, shows how little you think of women. You should want to meet women with similar interests to yours so you can enjoy their company, not lie about what you like to have sex with women.

There are women who are interested in everything. EVERYTHING. Find out what you like first. Go from there.

And as for the second part, just holy fucking shit. You don't want a girlfriend, you want a sex doll. If you refuse to even consider being friends with girls who might not be interested in you you're always gonna look at women as objects, not people, and nobody wants a relationship with somebody who treats them like an object.

You are not ready to date. Focus on your interests, groups that cater to those interests, and making female friends WITH THE EXPECTATION TO NEVER EVER HAVE SEX WITH THEM.

[ssgtballard]

What the fuck part of DrSleep's last thread didn't everyone get ? He will not take your advice, the only way he will ever change is if someone punches him in the face, knocks him out and swaps his fucked up brain for someone's with a clue. Stop entertaining this thread with advice and just follow the birds post

[The Gunner]

Originally Posted by ssgtballard

What the fuck part of DrSleep's last thread didn't everyone get ? He will not take your advice, the only way he will ever change is if someone punches him in the face, knocks him out and swaps his fucked up brain for someone's with a clue. Stop entertaining this thread with advice and just follow the birds post

Dibs on the punch to the face part.

Fuck it, I'm an amateur surgeon, I'll try the brain transplant too.

[dEadERest]

Originally Posted by The Gunner

Fuck it, I'm an amateur surgeon, I'll try the brain transplant too.

my sister is an OR nurse so i am qualified to assist

[FletchLives]

Originally Posted by dEadERest

my sister is an OR nurse so i am qualified to assist

I pulled out a splinter once, I'll join.