Long-distance relationships

[Junkenstein]

Originally Posted by metal_martha_stewart

Lads, is there something I need to know?

we had a dirty thing.

he painted me in the nude sfter all.

[Junkenstein]

One point i seriously DONT get that has been made by many.

The "not knowing what they are doin".

You DO realize that you dont know that in any relationship, right? As long as you dont spend 110% of your time together. And even in that case theres always the chance that if they want to cheat on you, they will (cause i guess thats what the not knowing is about). Actually the majority of cohabitating relationshp people i know have no real idea of what the other person does, and they do tons and tons of stuff behind each others backs.

So if you do not trust the person, long or short distance isnt that much difference, your relationship is not going to work, ever.

The distance is a fuck up cause obviously you want to be together and thats a pain. but if you love someon oe you feel like they might be the right person, i dont see the poinjt of giving it up cause its difficult. that mindset would just send you to no love land. Or foprce you to stay with someone you donbt really have feelings for cause uts easier. And that will hurt worse than any distance.

But the not knowing thing is retarded. Do you feel insecure when they are at work too? Cause they might be cheating on you, you know. Duh.

[The Living Dead]

Originally Posted by Junkenstein

One point i seriously DONT get that has been made by many.

The "not knowing what they are doin".

You DO realize that you dont know that in any relationship, right? As long as you dont spend 110% of your time together. And even in that case theres always the chance that if they want to cheat on you, they will (cause i guess thats what the not knowing is about). Actually the majority of cohabitating relationshp people i know have no real idea of what the other person does, and they do tons and tons of stuff behind each others backs.

So if you do not trust the person, long or short distance isnt that much difference, your relationship is not going to work, ever.

The distance is a fuck up cause obviously you want to be together and thats a pain. but if you love someon oe you feel like they might be the right person, i dont see the poinjt of giving it up cause its difficult. that mindset would just send you to no love land. Or foprce you to stay with someone you donbt really have feelings for cause uts easier. And that will hurt worse than any distance.

But the not knowing thing is retarded. Do you feel insecure when they are at work too? Cause they might be cheating on you, you know. Duh.

My boyfriend and I go through long distance periods of our relationship during breaks (we go to the same university), and sometimes I have trouble trusting him. When he doesn't have to work, he's a big partier, and I just get terrified that he will get mega-drunk and fuck some random chick without thinking. I like to think that I trust him, just not shitfaced him, because people can make horrible decisions.

Oh yeah, it also doesn't help that we've been dating nine months now, and we had to have a hard conversation yesterday about how he's not in love with me, but according to him he will love me, but he just doesn't yet. What the hell does that even mean? It makes me wonder if anything more will come of this stupid relationship, which sucks because he does make me genuinely happier than anyone else I've ever met.

....Sorry I needed to rant about that. Still a fresh wound.

Anyway, long distance is hard. We barely made it through the three month summer break. Anything longer than that I do not recommend, but then again it seems to work for other people.

[marina]

Originally Posted by Junkenstein

One point i seriously DONT get that has been made by many.

The "not knowing what they are doing".

It's not that I thought Dr. BF was cheating on me, it's just that not knowing what he was doing made him feel so much farther away. I had several moments while he was away where I felt like I wasn't a part of his real life, which was disconcerting. Knowing what a partner is doing, or at least what they should be doing, makes a person feel like they are a part of the equation.

[Junkenstein]

It work case by case as in any relationship. its hard, sure but, for example, my biggest relationship failure was also due to both our obsessing on how we shoulod be bvetter, share more, be more part of each other life and other negatives.

on the main thing i am just so stoked about finding such a perfect match for me that letting negative details get in the way would be suicidal.

Seriously, i love her too hard to care about issues thaqt can be solved.

getting an iphone to be in contact all the time, looking for a job in the us, saving money to move.

i have to make it work and i will. i love her. i dont care if we have the universe between us.

[iheartnihilism]

Originally Posted by Junkenstein

Gay stuff.

::baaaaaaarf::

[Junkenstein]

Originally Posted by iheartnihilism

::baaaaaaarf::

Trust me. i am aware of how repulsive i am lately.

I am a kitten wrapped in rainbow coloured cotton candy.

[blackpussy]

Let me just say that I drink from "time to time" and I also tend to get shitfaced sometimes too. I don't, however, cheat on hubby. If you worry about someone cheating when they are drunk, you prolly should worry about it when they are sober too. Cheaters gonna cheat, just sayin.

[doug]

Originally Posted by blackpussy

Let me just say that I drink from "time to time" and I also tend to get shitfaced sometimes too. I don't, however, cheat on hubby. If you worry about someone cheating when they are drunk, you prolly should worry about it when they are sober too. Cheaters gonna cheat, just sayin.

This.

[punk'n]

Originally Posted by blackpussy

Let me just say that I drink from "time to time" and I also tend to get shitfaced sometimes too. I don't, however, cheat on hubby. If you worry about someone cheating when they are drunk, you prolly should worry about it when they are sober too. Cheaters gonna cheat, just sayin.

It's true.