Only children

[Junkenstein]

I'm an only child and i always wanted to have a sibling.

Its not about the loneliness (being an only child forced me to get out of my shell sooner and becoming social) or being spoiled (thats a myth) but mostly cause i would've loved, sruing my life, to have someone who had shared the bad/good aspects of my family. Someone on my side durinbg the trip, someone i can talk to that actually understands how i grew and why i am the way i am.

[BrianAlt]

Originally Posted by Junkenstein

I'm an only child

So THAT'S what is wrong with you!

[Medium Brumski]

I'm the 4th out of 5 kids. My older brothers made growing up a little hard, but my little brother made things easier. I realize now that my parents were doing ok, financially, to support all of us, and in talking to the folks now that we're all adults, I know that they went into their marriage wanting a big family. So really I gotta go with the lame response and say it depends on the couple's own wants and abilities.

But my family fucking rocks, and now we have a blast when we hang out.

[Junkenstein]

Originally Posted by BrianAlt

So THAT'S what is wrong with you!

dude, that totally shaped me into the incongrous mess i am today.

[ssgtballard]

I grew up with two of my sibling and keep in contact with my 4 other siblings from my dads other marriages. It was hard growing up being the oldest and the first parenting experiment for my parents but I wouldn't change it for anything. My siblings and I are best friends now and see each other at least once a week.

I have two kids and made the decision to have a second child because I didn't want to have my son miss out on having siblings and the bond I have with mine.

[FletchLives]

i'm the youngest of 3 kids and the youngest kid in my generation of my whole family. it fuckin sucked growing up. there is only one person (my older sister) in my whole family within 5 years of my age, instead of being spoiled, i was just expected to act like all the older kids.
what i'm saying is, look at all the people the kid would be growing up with, not just the siblings.
and if you have another kid mainly because you think your first needs company, i feel like that would throw off the dynamic of the household.

i also want to add that even though i'm 20, if someone wanted to adopt me, that would be awesome. college is a bitch to pay for.

[marina]

Originally Posted by campy

Wow, the poll is evenly divided.

I can absolutely see where having another baby would round out his little life. I am waffling because of the strain of having kids. I had a rough time from multiple miscarriages to a traumatic delivery where the baby was at risk of dying. Then the baby was collicky, insane sleep deprivation and severe post pardum anxiety....holy fuck. I feel like I just came away with my life when he hit the year old mark.

It's funny what people say, they'd do anything for their kids. I really felt I would never put myself through that again and said it every day for a year...but here I am...

Have you considered adopting? It sounds like having another kid would put your current kid in danger of not only not having a sibling, but also not having a mother.

[campy]

Marina, well i'm turning 39 tomorrow so I don't really have the time to wait on an adoption list. I am also worried about being able to carry another one just because of my age. SO I better make up my mind quick.

LOTCR, I think it's natural for a kid to want to be the center of their mom and dad's world. One of the Plus side of my plus minus list for only having one is the fact that our son will have our undivided attention and 100% of our resources. I grew up in a largeish family and the resources were spread thin. We couldn't go to Disney, have new clothes (everything was second hand) go to Europe with the school band etc...

I wouldn't trade my bros for any of that mind you.....But it would have been nice to have my parents undivided attention.

[Junkenstein]

Originally Posted by Lord of the Cock Rings

Being an only child never bothered me. At some point around 10 or 11 years old my mom asked me how I would feel about having a little brother or sister or sister and I selfishly said something to the effect of "are you kidding me? I am the center of your motherfucking world, lets not screw up a good thing".

And she listened to your opinion?

Thats so weird to me. If my mother wanted another kid, she would have had it, wether i liked it or not and i wouldve had to suck up and help her raising him.

Its not the first time i hear a case like yours and it always boggles me.

[Deborah]

Originally Posted by Junkenstein

And she listened to your opinion?

Thats so weird to me. If my mother wanted another kid, she would have had it, wether i liked it or not and i wouldve had to suck up and help her raising him.

Its not the first time i hear a case like yours and it always boggles me.

I don't think she was able to have any more children.