Parenting 201 - Without Alchohol?

[Woodchuck]

I consider myself a pretty good parent, but I'm now faced with a challenge that stumps me. When I was 17 (back in the day), all of my entertainment revolved around getting fucked up as quickly as possible. I now have a 17 year old daughter that has has chosen to stay straight.

Her hanging around, watching movies with her boyfriend drives my wife and I crazy. ("When I was your age, I couldn't wait to get out of the house....")


Our experiences were totally different. I ran from my house to drop, or toke, or drink. She has no such drive.

My question is when asked "Well Dad, what do you want me to do?" What do I say? She's minimally athelitic BTW.

Any ideas KATG wise form readers?

[stjoe]

Originally Posted by Woodchuck

I consider myself a pretty good parent, but I'm now faced with a challenge that stumps me. When I was 17 (back in the day), all of my entertainment revolved around getting fucked up as quickly as possible. I now have a 17 year old daughter that has has chosen to stay straight.

Her hanging around, watching movies with her boyfriend drives my wife and I crazy. ("When I was your age, I couldn't wait to get out of the house....")


Our experiences were totally different. I ran from my house to drop, or toke, or drink. She has no such drive.

My question is when asked "Well Dad, what do you want me to do?" What do I say? She's minimally athelitic BTW.

Any ideas KATG wise form readers?

I'd probably tell her to go out and have a good time. Go experience life. What's the point of sitting on the couch your whole life? Go out with friends. Go to movies, go to dinner, go do anything. She'll have plenty of time to sit around the house when she's older and has less energy.

On the other side of that... at least she's not going out and getting pregnant. Damn, I'm glad I had 2 boys. I wouldn't want to deal with that.

[EastTexas]

Deal with it for a year and send her off to college.

[Woodchuck]

Okay..,. I hear you. She knows how to party, but doesn't want to. All her friends are boozing it up etc. What should she do straight? She actually hates party people.

[stjoe]

Originally Posted by Woodchuck

Okay..,. I hear you. She knows how to party, but doesn't want to. All her friends are boozing it up etc. What should she do straight? She actually hates party people.

Shit. I don't know. I was drunk or high every single day from age 12 to 25. I actually don't remember any of those years.

Does she have money? Can she get some? Get a hobby, even if it costs a lot.

I know that I spent a lot of time watching movies with my girlfriend when I was 17 but that was because I lived with her in her parents house and all we did was fuck all day and all night. Maybe not the best parenting. Don't mention that 'hobby' to her.

[MichaelG]

take a way what she loves the most.

boyfriend, tv, sports.

she will rebel. go goth and listen to DnD

mission accomplished.

Why don't YOU and your wife leave the house.

Go to a movie or rent a room for the night.

[stjoe]

Originally Posted by MichaelG

Why don't YOU and your wife leave the house.

Go to a movie or rent a room for the night.

That's a good point. If you're not around to see her doing nothing, it won't bother you half as much.

And after thinking about it, why does she have to do anything? Is she in your space and annoying you? Get her out of the room so you can relax, but don't force her to go out and do things if she doesn't feel like it.

[devilishone]

Give her a bottle of lube and some flavoured condoms and tell her to go hog wild?

[Jenna_f]

I'm not completly sure how that post is to be taken.
It seems like it's one of two things:
A) You're dissapointed that she's lazy and sits around all day. If that is the case, that is fine, make her go do something.
B) If you are actually dissapointed that she isn't going off and doing drugs and alcahol, that is wierd. But if it really concerns you that she's never has alcahol that badly, you could introduce it around the house if you really wanted, wine during dinner or something. But really, you should be happy to have a daughter who isn't going out getting drunk and killing herself in some drunken haze of stupid accident making.

Your kid isn't going to grow up exactly the same way you did, and that's okay.

[unknownsoldier]

If she has a boyfriend it hardly sounds like she is a hermit. If she is happy and not shunning all social contact then what is the problem? She just likes interacting with people on a smaller scale than what big parties allow. That doesn't mean she's anti-social.