What should I do now?

[DWarrior]

Originally Posted by GreatAuk

Link to the background info on this? Or are you just making shit up? I don't think you have any idea what has happened to him or what he said to his wife. But hey, maybe you do!

No background, but read the first sentence of the post. I'd say we need more explanation on how a sister in law can know about campy's childhood and how her parents treated their kids.

[DWarrior]

Originally Posted by doug

Murder suicide.

Everyone wins.

Don't forget to stream the events. Then really everyone wins.

[DWarrior]

Originally Posted by GreatAuk

No shit. Why jump to your conclusion, and not that married people share things?

He shared things that his sister was the favorite child?

[John Galt]

Originally Posted by doug

Murder suicide.

Everyone wins.

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[BrianAlt]

Originally Posted by slampokes

\... my sister and I fight like the fucking Kinks.

Love this!

[Tech007]

Originally Posted by campy

What should I do now to repair the relationship?

Also see "What Do We Do Know" - Chapter 4 - Fighting - Pages 75-96

Wishing you well.

[doug]

Originally Posted by GreatAuk

doug, who is committing the murder suicide?

You?

[campy]

Thank you all for your responses, even Doug who made me Laugh out loud.

Thank you Slampokes and Chemda, great advice and support. Chemda, I have written this letter out in my head and I will put it on paper because the thoughts just aren't as cathartic.

I have simmered down a LOT, time does that I guess. I don't want tension in the family, there's enough of that already between my dad and everyone else.

To answer the question about the background, yes my brother does confide to his wife how he's feeling. I think having children has made him review his own past and he doesn't like what he remembers. Frankly he can have his feelings, their his burden not mine... It was my SIL's comments, trying to drag me into their shit. Talking like she knows everything about my upbringing including me being the favourite and therefore special. I don't care what she thinks, it's her opinion. I have many many memories of my childhood and not all are good, I pick and choose to remember what I want, how I want and had decided long ago I couldn't hold grudges.....she seems to want me to hold that grudge.

Anyway, I'm calmer...but she will hear about it again but from the calmer Sarah because mad Sarah is real mean.

[doug]

Originally Posted by campy

even Doug who made me Laugh out loud.

One experience I have had that might be helpful is that my ex's dad was a real shit bag when she was a kid and she used to tell me about it and then get confused why I had a hard time getting along with her dad. You and your bro know what happened but your SIL only knows what he tells her and that's probably all bad and all biased towards him.

It's an issue of disparate information.

[DWarrior]

Originally Posted by GreatAuk

Alright, I guess you're just a retarded asshole.

I'll agree that one of us is a retard.

Originally Posted by campy

To answer the question about the background, yes my brother does confide to his wife how he's feeling. I think having children has made him review his own past and he doesn't like what he remembers. Frankly he can have his feelings, their his burden not mine... It was my SIL's comments, trying to drag me into their shit. Talking like she knows everything about my upbringing including me being the favourite and therefore special. I don't care what she thinks, it's her opinion. I have many many memories of my childhood and not all are good, I pick and choose to remember what I want, how I want and had decided long ago I couldn't hold grudges.....she seems to want me to hold that grudge.

Anyway, I'm calmer...but she will hear about it again but from the calmer Sarah because mad Sarah is real mean.

I don't think I could be around people who thought like that of me (not just that I was necessarily more fortunate, but luckier at their expense). I'd thank the alcohol for bringing out the truth and cut them out. But maybe my opinion is influenced by the fact that I don't crave a lot of interpersonal interaction, which makes it easier to let go of people.

It's definitely on her to apologize. If she doesn't realize she owes you an apology, then I don't see why you'd want to know her. Again, this might just go back to me being selective about the people I care to interact with.

I don't care what she thinks, it's her opinion.

You do care.