2893: The Talk w/ Andrea Allan

[Keith]

Seriously, have you been told that you lack emotion, or that you might have Asperger's?

And you don't have to write something like, "Oh I guess if I don't agree with Keith I must have Asperger's." Just, like, has anyone said that?

[Mermaid]

Originally Posted by Keith

Seriously, have you been told that you lack emotion, or that you might have Asperger's?

And you don't have to write something like, "Oh I guess if I don't agree with Keith I must have Asperger's." Just, like, has anyone said that?

No, I have plenty of emotions.

I can't relate to your current experience because I've been lucky enough to have similar expectations as the people I've had sex with. My friends with benefits all started as friends who I thought maybe could become more but after a few dates we decided we weren't romantically compatible and that was just lust.

They've been around for about a decade. So that's the majority of my adult life (I'm 27). I'm not enticed by the idea of new dick. So my dating life is literally just dating without my lust playing a part...unless I really want it to.

[Keith]

Then you're doing great!

You can't relate. I'm not joking. You're TOO sensible.

[Hera]

Originally Posted by Mermaid

My question for you was why do you continue entertaining the women you don't see a future with.

You never answered.

I get what you’re saying. Andrea made a lot of sense when she implied some of these women are getting hurt, but are hanging in there with Keith hoping it will get better. I think rather than admit he is hurting them (because he is a good guy after all) Keith is hiding behind, “we’ll I told them I’m not monogamous and they choose to stay!” Yes it’s on the women at that point but it’s still kind of distasteful after all

[LoopyLou79]

He’ll probably correct me, but I think Keith is beginning to work out that the admin associated with going out with multiple people far outstretches the benefits.

[Keith]

Loopylou69,

No. I'm realizing people lie. Or are lying to themselves. But I wouldn't take back where I am for... $7,000.

Lemme think.

$13,000.

Yeah.

Seriously, this is good. How can I find The One assuming everyone is a fuckin' liar?


Hera,

Grow up and ask for what you want out of life. How don't you feel like a piece of shit thinking, "But he REALLY should know better..."

[LoopyLou79]

To find the one you need to both want to work together, no judgements, and know that you could both call it off tomorrow, but you just don’t want to.

I try and remember that you cannot make your partner love you, they have to do that, and when you realise there is nothing you can do to make a person like you, you can relax and enjoy your relationship.

Seems like the women your dating haven’t come to terms with that, they are in part stringing themselves along.

Me and Mr Loopy could break up tomorrow, I don’t know what’s round the corner.

[Keith]

Not IN part. ALL part.

And you and your man could break up tomorrow, "who knows"? Well that's the fuckin' saddest thing I've ever heard.

But you don't have to console me. I know you don't mean it.

[Mermaid]

Originally Posted by Hera

I get what you’re saying. Andrea made a lot of sense when she implied some of these women are getting hurt, but are hanging in there with Keith hoping it will get better. I think rather than admit he is hurting them (because he is a good guy after all) Keith is hiding behind, “we’ll I told them I’m not monogamous and they choose to stay!” Yes it’s on the women at that point but it’s still kind of distasteful after all

It seems like the consensus is that:

He is getting what he wants and that's all that matters.

If he feels that the people he is interacting with are being hurt by their interactions, there's nothing he can do about it. The women have dug themselves a hole.

Deciding to discontinue is taking away the women's autonomy in the situation.

Its all very interesting.

"What a tangled web we weave" lol

[LoopyLou79]

Originally Posted by Keith

Not IN part. ALL part.

And you and your man could break up tomorrow, "who knows"? Well that's the fuckin' saddest thing I've ever heard.

But you don't have to console me. I know you don't mean it.

I just don’t ever want to presume we will be like this forever, I hope we will be, but life loves a curve ball.