I Have A Problem With Alcohol.

[lizzy1e]

Well done and happy birthday!

[Dean from Australia]

Originally Posted by campy

Amazing!!!!!


proud of you Dean, the first hurdle done and dusted. How's the seriouso feeling about it?

Em is pretty damned proud as are my kids.


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It is just the start.

Originally Posted by lizzy1e

Well done and happy birthday!

You're the best Lizzy.

[Enunciated Piffle]

The problem with binge drinking is that you do not realize it's binge drinking. You get used to drinking until you blackout or pass out.

If you turn into an asshole when drunk then there is definitely something seriously wrong going on in the background of your mind. Find a good therapist and put in the work. It's ignorant to think you know everything about yourself. Go talk to someone, a professional, and get some feedback. You will be amazed.

I almost lost my daughter because: A) I'm a supreme narcissist (and kids are dumb and not good enough for me as a creative person / I thought being a parent was beneath me B) I literally started drinking and doing heavy drugs at age 13. When you hear the term 'teen alcoholic' it sounds almost laughable but that was me. I had a beard at age 17 and had my liquor store that sold to me. By 19 I was shooting coke, heroin, and meth. My friends couldn't understand why I didn't care about going to the bar for my '21st' legal age drink. I had substituted drinking with needles long ago. I was actually a proud addict because I didn't drink...

Embracing my fatherhood, becoming an engaged parent, is really and truly what saved my life.

* Realize time with your kids is important. If drinking on a Friday or Saturday think to yourself 'Am I going to be a hung-over worthless piece of shit all weekend?

* You need discipline in life. This can come in many forms. I take my dog for a 1.5 mile hike every morning. Along with sit ups and push ups, I know that I can't or won't if feeling shitty from too much drink.

* I've found it super helpful to dwell on what I'm doing the next day and why I can't go into a blackout. You need to retrain your body to enjoy the buzz that comes from 2-3 drinks.

* Before you go to bar, or party or whatever make a SOBER decision on how many drinks and of what you will be having. I can have 6 gin and tonics and be perfectly fine. More than 6 beers and I'm slurring and feel like hell the next day. Make a conscious sober decision on how many drinks and STICK TO THAT #!

You got a good life Dean. If there is any resentment about your writing, your family, your obligations, your unfulfilled dreams, whatever - go talk to someone. Get that shit figured out because that is what tips you from 'oh I'm just having a drink socially' to subconsciously/ completely unaware switching over to your body chemistry realizing 'oh this is nice. Let's escape this stress of life!'

You have the good fortune of being a MARRIED man with kids. You don't wanna throw that away. I live that life. All alone. Getting the kid on weekends. Wondering what would have been if only... IF only I'd of been less selfish. More caring. It's hell. Whatever look your child gave you - make that shit haunt you. The consequences are brutal. Double that when a smart man like yourself actually has the good sense to be aware of it.

[Dean from Australia]

Originally Posted by Enunciated Piffle

Whatever look your child gave you - make that shit haunt you. The consequences are brutal. Double that when a smart man like yourself actually has the good sense to be aware of it.

This - brilliance.

[Keith]

My biggest concern over all of this is that I don't see why anyone would trust Boba Fett with The Emperor. Don't even get me started on how it looks like they're all coming from The Millennium Falcon...

[Scumhook]

Deano - fucking massive that u accomplished what you did this weekend. Fucking great mate. Onwards and upwards, baby.


Piffo - fucking awesome post. you have reinforced my belief that people in mountains should not be allowed to reproduce; however this notwithstanding your raw honest post shines like a beacon to others navigating the treacherous waters of life, love and liquor.



You both make me erect proud to have read this thread.

[Dean from Australia]

Originally Posted by Enunciated Piffle

You got a good life Dean. If there is any resentment about your writing, your family, your obligations, your unfulfilled dreams, whatever - go talk to someone. Get that shit figured out because that is what tips you from 'oh I'm just having a drink socially' to subconsciously/ completely unaware switching over to your body chemistry realizing 'oh this is nice. Let's escape this stress of life!'

There are some resentments around my writing that cause some tensions within my relationship with my serioso but I don't think that they influence my propensity to wipe the floor with myself.

She has a problem with my writing and the amount of time she perceives I invest in it and hasn't really been supportive of it. It has caused some arguments but I don't believe that I have neglected my responsibilities as a husband and father because of my writing.

Originally Posted by Keith

My biggest concern over all of this is that I don't see why anyone would trust Boba Fett with The Emperor. Don't even get me started on how it looks like they're all coming from The Millennium Falcon...

I think there was kind of a gay sexual tension going on between Boba Fett and the Emperor. That bounty hunter had some pretty wicked tools on those wrist gauntlets of his.

And there was always the suggestion that the Falcon had some secret compartments that we didn't see. These were in fact called "play rooms" & were well equipped.

[Enunciated Piffle]

Originally Posted by Scumhook

you have reinforced my belief that people in mountains should not be allowed to reproduce;

Exactly! I swear sometimes, Scummy, you're the only one who understands my writing...

On a serious note. I have resented being a parent and it really made all my problems in life: worse. This is why I'm so adamant about abortion or taking fucking care of your kid.

[Enunciated Piffle]

Originally Posted by Dean from Australia

She has a problem with my writing and the amount of time she perceives I invest in it and hasn't really been supportive of it. It has caused some arguments .

Find someone who councils couples. Go at least once. See what happens. It sounds like the communication could be a bit better or more clear.

Let me ask you this. Do you ever look at your wife and think 'Here I am, a writer, this woman is no writer, what the hell does she know about writing? About anything?'

[campy]

Hey EP, let's not muddy the waters with relationship BS. I am sure there are two sides to this writing storyline.

The advice on seeing a therapist is great advice though. Therapy might help you root out any underline issues, give you strategies for dealing with social events and long term sobriety. Help you manage anger, frustration and weak moments without guilt and pity parties.

I went in 2010 for postpartum anxiety and it helped me immensely. I regret not going last year after a series of miscarriages left me in a deep depression and my 12 year relationship on the rocks. I am stubborn but mainly I was scared and too "In the dumps" to even face it. I wish I had gone though, the black point left scars on our relationship.

Maybe you can go, let me know how you do and then it might get me and my man in there :-)