3282: Karen

[littlp]

Re: the sex abuse.
1. Definitely be talking to a therapist to help you walk through this.
2. You likely were not the only one who was abused. Most often, kids who abuse other kids have been abused themselves. And like you said, they likely didn’t know. But it still affected you. And sex abusers very rarely only have one victim. I wonder if your brother went through the same thing.
3. Like KEith and a Chemda said-you aren’t responsible for how other people respond. That is on them. You can’t make people relapse-if they do they’ve been looking for a reason they would use any justification.
4. Talk to the therapist about how to have an age appropriate conversation with your son. You don’t have to give him the nitty gritty details as to what happened to you, but it is important for him to know that if ANYONE ever does anything that makes them uncomfortable that you would want to know.



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[littlp]

Here is an article from rainn.org that gives tips on how to talk about consent and sex abuse with children

https://www.rainn.org/articles/talki...exual-assault]


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[bagelwagel]

Originally Posted by littlp

1. Definitely be talking to a therapist to help you walk through this.

If you can, a therapist who specializes in sexual and/or childhood trauma.

[bagelwagel]

I would also talk with a therapist about your expectations for what you want out of telling your family. You a valid desire to tell your family your truth.

I don't want you walking away from finally telling your family feeling as if you didn't get what you wanted across.